Leil Lowndes > Quotes

“Don’t flash an immediate smile when you greet someone, as though anyone who walked into your line of sight would be the beneficiary. Instead, look at the other person’s face for a second. Pause. Soak in their persona. Then let a big, warm, responsive smile flood over your face and overflow into your eyes. It will engulf the recipient like a warm wave. The split-second delay convinces people your flooding smile is genuine and only for them.”
― Leil Lowndes, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

“So how do you find out what someone does for a living? (I thought you’d never ask.) You simply practice the following eight words. All together now: "How . . . do . . . you . . . spend . . . most . . . of . . . your . . . time?”
― Leil Lowndes, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

“take consolation from the fact that the brighter the individual, the more he or she detests small talk.”
― Leil Lowndes, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

“A wise politician, when asked if he were for or against Prohibition, answered: If by alcohol, you mean the dangerous drink which destroys families, than I am fully for Prohibition. But if, by alcohol, you mean noble drink which promotes good fellowship and makes every meal a pleasure, then I am against it.”
― Leil Lowndes, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

“Keep good eye contact.”
― Leil Lowndes, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

“Never let the phrase thank you stand naked and alone. 'Thank you for being such a good customer.' 'Thank you for being so loving.”
― Leil Lowndes, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

“When we find people with the supernatural powers of perception to recognize our remarkableness, we become addicted to the heady drug of their appreciation.”
― Leil Lowndes, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

“When you act as though you like someone, you start to really like them.”
― Leil Lowndes, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

“great posture, a heads-up look, a confident smile, and a direct gaze." The ideal image for somebody who's a Somebody.”
― Leil Lowndes, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

“How to Make People Want to Start a Conversation with You Singles proficient at meeting potential sweethearts without the benefit of introduction (in the vernacular, making a "pickup"), have developed a deliciously devious technique that works equally well for social or corporate networking purposes. The technique requires no exceptional skill on your part, only the courage to sport a simple visual prop called a "Whatzit." What’s a Whatzit? A Whatzit is anything you wear or carry that is unusual—a unique pin, an interesting purse, a strange tie, or an amusing hat. A Whatzit is any object that draws people’s attention and inspires them to approach you and ask, "Uh, what’s that?" Your Whatzit can be as subtle or overt as your personality and the occasion permit.”
― Leil Lowndes, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

“There are two kinds of people in this life: Those who walk into a room and say,
‘Well, here I am!’ And those who walk in and say,
‘Ahh, there you are.”
― Leil Lowndes, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

“Do humanity and yourself a favor. Never, ever, give just a one-sentence response to the question, "Where are you from?" Give the asker some fuel for his tank, some fodder for his trough.”
― Leil Lowndes, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

“I always try to turn the spotlight on the other person." The longer you keep it shining away from you, the more interesting he or she finds you.”
― Leil Lowndes, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

“Keep your differences a secret and celebrate your similarities instead.”
― Leil Lowndes

“The study showed women who were slower to smile in corporate life were perceived as more credible." As Missy talked, I began to think about history-making women like Margaret Thatcher, Indira Gandhi, Golda Meir, Madeleine Albright, and other powerful women of their ilk. Not one was known for her quick smile. Missy continued, "The study went on to say a big, warm smile is an asset. But only when it comes a little slower, because then it has more credibility." From that moment on,”
― Leil Lowndes, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

“grow more by listening than talking.”
― Leil Lowndes, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

“whenever people meet you, they take an instant mental snapshot. That image of you becomes the data they deal with for a very long time.”
― Leil Lowndes, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

“Your eyes are personal grenades that have the power to detonate people's emotions.”
― Leil Lowndes, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

“You see, nobody gets to the top alone. Over the years, people who seem to ‘have it all’ have captured the hearts and conquered the minds of hundreds of others who helped boost them, rung by rung, to the top of whatever corporate or social ladder they chose.”
― Leil Lowndes, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

“The moment someone looks at you, he or she experiences a massive hit, the impact of which lays the groundwork for the entire relationship. Just give 'em great posture, a heads-up look, a confident smile, and a direct gaze.”
― Leil Lowndes, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

“The exact moment that two humans lay eyes on each other has awesome potency.”
― Leil Lowndes, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

“Train your body to act confidently so your mind follows suit. This is what the experts recommend. It’s a lot easier to whip your body into shape than your brain. You know all the basic stuff: Stand tall, look people in the eye, smile and speak up. Start practising your CONFIDENCE BOOSTERs on the least intimidating people. Work your way up to the most difficult.”
― Leil Lowndes, How to Feel Confident: Simple Tools for Instant Success

“when meeting someone, our brains are in overdrive. Remember Shakespeare’s Julius Caesar? He said of Cassius, he "has a lean and hungry look . . . he thinks too much . . . such men are dangerous.”
― Leil Lowndes, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

“At the end of the conversation, look the individual right in the eye. Say his or her name and proceed to curl all ten toes with the Killer Compliment.”
― Leil Lowndes, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

“Right after you've talked to someone at a party, take out your pen. On the back of his or her business card write notes to remind you of the conversation: his favourite restaurant, sport, movie, or drink; whom she admires, where she grew up, a high school honour; or maybe a joke he told. In your next communication, toss off a reference to the favourite restaurant, sport, movie, drink, hometown, high school honour.”
― Leil Lowndes, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

“TECHNIQUE #26 YOUR PERSONAL THESAURUS Look up some common words you use every day in the thesaurus. Then, like slipping your feet into a new pair of shoes, slip your tongue into a few new words to see how they fit. If you like them, start making permanent replacements. Remember, only fifty words makes the difference between a rich, creative vocabulary and an average, middle-of-the-road one. Substitute a word a day for two months and you'll be in the verbally elite.”
― Leil Lowndes, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

“Small talk is about putting people at ease. Your unspoken answer to their unspoken question, "How do you like me so far?" must be, "Wow! I really like you.”
― Leil Lowndes, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

“85 per cent of one’s success in life is directly due to communications skills.13”
― Leil Lowndes, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

“When introducing someone to another person: If you're not comfortable mentioning someone's job during the introduction, mention their hobby or even a talent.”
― Leil Lowndes, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

“the difference between a respected vocabulary and a mundane one is only about fifty words!”
― Leil Lowndes, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships