Erin Falconer > Quotes

“You may feel like the most productive person alive, but without a purpose, you’re just busy.”
― Erin Falconer, How to Get Sh*t Done: Why Women Need to Stop Doing Everything so They Can Achieve Anything

“I mean, I get it, In life, we're judged according to what we've done. And women are consistently assessed more harshly. A New York University study showed that women have to do much more than men to be perceived as equally productive in the workplace. So we keep chugging along. Me? I'm great. I got so much done today! We want to have spotless homes, healthy-yet-gourmet meals, executive-track promotions, well-behaved children, a robust spiritual life, spotless community service, hot sex, and on top of all that, some time to relax. But herein lies the conundrum, If we continue to pursue productivity for productivity's sake, women will continue to position ourselves diametrically opposed to satisfaction.

You may feel like the most productive person alive, but without a purpose, you're just busy.”
― Erin Falconer, How to Get Sh*t Done

“Freud once asked, “What do women want?” Good. Fucking. Question.”
― Erin Falconer, How to Get Sh*t Done: Why Women Need to Stop Doing Everything so They Can Achieve Anything

“WHO’S THE BOSS OF YOU? Take charge of your life by:  Moving from object to subject. Ditching busyness.  Learning the sound of your own voice.”
― Erin Falconer, How to Get Sh*t Done: Why Women Need to Stop Doing Everything so They Can Achieve Anything

“Pick the Brain literally helped me pick up the pieces of my life and get back into the mind-set that I needed to shake off the sad-sack, always-apologizing, always-afraid girl I’d become in my early twenties. It taught me how to get shit done and to not give a damn if I didn’t prioritize the things everyone else wanted me to.”
― Erin Falconer, How to Get Sh*t Done: Why Women Need to Stop Doing Everything so They Can Achieve Anything

“Women—both historically and today—have focused on trying to prove ourselves, by trying to get the maximum amount of things done in whatever time we have. We want to have spotless houses, gourmet meals, executive-track promotions, well-behaved children, a robust spiritual life, a spotless community-service record, and, and top of it all, we want time to just relax. We see ourselves as failures and as simply not good enough. So instead if spending time working on ourselves and knowing and loving who we really are, we base our value in what we've crossed off on our to-do-lists. We spread ourselves thin through overcommitting, overvolunteering, and holding ourselves up to standards that are near impossible to achieve, and when we fail (because really, we were sabotaging ourselves from the start), we mentally bludgeon ourselves for not being good enough. We are mice in a wheel, accomplishing a lot, but we are not getting anywhere that really matters to us.”
― Erin Falconer

“Here’s what I know to be true: If you want to make God laugh, tell Him your plans.”
― Erin Falconer, How to Get Sh*t Done: Why Women Need to Stop Doing Everything so They Can Achieve Anything

“Getting comfortable with our own thoughts, feelings, and values and even more comfortable with rejecting the external forces that don’t serve us is like tipping the first domino over.”
― Erin Falconer, How to Get Sh*t Done: Why Women Need to Stop Doing Everything so They Can Achieve Anything

“I was going to start over. Again. I was going to figure out what mattered to me, how to get things done while being authentic to my values and goals as a person and as a woman.”
― Erin Falconer, How to Get Sh*t Done: Why Women Need to Stop Doing Everything so They Can Achieve Anything

“It was amazing—the second we gave up caring what they thought, we had their undivided attention.”
― Erin Falconer, How to Get Sh*t Done: Why Women Need to Stop Doing Everything so They Can Achieve Anything

“people these days are running, not walking, away from any time of deep self-reflection or intimacy with themselves, so how can we possibly be truly great in relationships? And yet, what greatness lies on the other side of all that hard work.”
― Erin Falconer, How to Break Up with Your Friends: Finding Meaning, Connection, and Boundaries in Modern Friendships

“I couldn’t have known when I started that we’d end up helping other people to not make the shitty decisions I’d made. It felt really, really, really good to help other people find their way.”
― Erin Falconer, How to Get Sh*t Done: Why Women Need to Stop Doing Everything so They Can Achieve Anything

“And in that lowest moment, my life started to take a turn. Here’s what I know to be true: If you want to make God laugh, tell Him your plans.”
― Erin Falconer, How to Get Sh*t Done: Why Women Need to Stop Doing Everything so They Can Achieve Anything

“The ability to maintain an alignment between you, your values, and your efforts is the secret sauce of productivity.”
― Erin Falconer, How to Get Sh*t Done: Why Women Need to Stop Doing Everything so They Can Achieve Anything