Shasta Nelson > Quotes

“If we keep saying something is important to us but then do nothing about it, we will ultimately lose both our trust in ourselves and our sense of integrity, not to mention that we’ll never get to our preferred future.”
― Shasta Nelson, Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness

“An airport cannot choose to only accept arrivals and not departures; there are valid times for travel in both directions. I cannot force people to stay here longer, any more than I can force time to stand still.”
― Shasta Nelson, Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends

“How I respond to you says more about me than it does about you.”
― Shasta Nelson, Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends

“The strength of our friendship isn’t as dependent upon how much we like each other, but more on how much time we spend together developing our friendship in broader and deeper ways.”
― Shasta Nelson

“Whoever doesn't love you doesn't know you.”
― Shasta Nelson, Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends

“I refuse to let past rejection, fears, insecurities, and previous losses stop me from being ready to receive this time.”
― Shasta Nelson, Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends

“Shame is the fear of disconnection, the doubts about whether we're worthy of love, and the suspicion that we are never quite enough, therefore we might never quite belong.”
― Shasta Nelson, Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends

“People bond more deeply over the quantity of perceived similarities than over the quality—the number of similarities matters more than their content. What we consider as the ‘big’ thing we think we need to have in common isn’t as effective at bonding us as having two or three ‘small’ things in common.”
― Shasta Nelson, Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends

“When we enter into Community Friends territory, we have crossed the lines of our original relationship boundaries so that now it feels normal to invite them to a random concert, check in with them about their weekend plans, or see if they are interested in starting a book club with us.”
― Shasta Nelson, Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends

“It’s recognizing that we’re making judgments about someone without yet loving them, forgetting that it is love in the end that makes all the difference”
― Shasta Nelson, Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends

“Community organizers, whose entire goal is to move people to action, know that for our interest to be sustainable it has to be linked to self-interest.”
― Shasta Nelson, Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends

“I want to show up in life in such a way that you feel encouraged in my presence. Not just applauded, but deeply hopeful.”
― Shasta Nelson, Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends

“If we facilitate the connections that humans need during the day (or whenever our employees work), then we can go to sleep at night knowing we're lengthening the lives, boosting the health, reducing the stress, and strengthening the mental health of humanity in general, instead of being the ones blamed for their burnout, exhaustion, and poor health.”
― Shasta Nelson, The Business of Friendship: Making the Most of Our Relationships Where We Spend Most of Our Time

“For developing relationships to what we call familiarity, I find that it takes most women six to eight times meeting with someone before they reach this stage.”
― Shasta Nelson, Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends

“We are being called to forgive ourselves, and others, so that we can live more fully in the present by removing the fear and shame from our past.”
― Shasta Nelson, Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends