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“The highest goal of spirituality is Self-realization, but what does that mean? It means to feel your Self as a living reality in this moment, and there is always only this moment. (10)”
― Gay Hendricks, Already Home: Radiant Wisdom And Life-changing Meditations from Ramana Maharshi, Sri Nisargadatta, And Teachers of the Advaita Tradition

“There's no such thing as a minor lapse of awareness. You're either present with what is--right here, right now--or you're someplace else.”
― Gay Hendricks, The First Rule of Ten

“I expand in abundance, success, and love every day, as I inspire those around me to do the same.”
― Gay Hendricks, The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level

“Each of us has an inner thermostat setting that determines how much love, success, and creativity we allow ourselves to enjoy. When we exceed our inner thermostat setting, we will often do something to sabotage ourselves, causing us to drop back into the old, familiar zone where we feel secure. Unfortunately,”
― Gay Hendricks, The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level

“Fear is excitement without the breath.” Here’s what this intriguing statement means: the very same mechanisms that produce excitement also produce fear, and any fear can be transformed into excitement by breathing fully with it.”
― Gay Hendricks, The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level

“The goal in life is not to attain some imaginary ideal; it is to find and fully use our own gifts.”
― Gay Hendricks, The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level

“Wherever your path takes you, may all your deathbed wishes come true, and may you celebrate each and every one of them many long years before your final breath.”
― Gay Hendricks, Five Wishes: How Answering One Simple Question Can Make Your Dreams Come True

“The best attitude to take toward back talk is to reach out and embrace it with love, compassion, and understanding. No need to criticize it for its shortcomings or to waste time in recriminations. Just give a loving nod and a hug to any back talk you get, and move on to the joyful creation of your fulfilled life. ”
― Gay Hendricks, Five Wishes: How Answering One Simple Question Can Make Your Dreams Come True

“In my life I’ve discovered that if I cling to the notion that something’s not possible, I’m arguing in favor of limitation. And if I argue for my limitations, I get to keep them.”
― Gay Hendricks, The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level

“Criticism and blame are addictions. They are costly addictions, because they are the number-one destroyer of intimacy in close relationships.”
― Gay Hendricks, The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level

“Genuine love is between two people who know they are already complete. Genuine love is based on a new paradigm in which both partners are committed to the celebration of each other and their loved ones.”
― Gay Hendricks, Lasting Love: The 5 Secrets of Growing a Vital, Conscious Relationship

“Letting yourself savor natural good feelings is a direct way to transcend your Upper Limit Problem. By extending your ability to feel positive feelings, you expand your tolerance for things going well in your life. In”
― Gay Hendricks, The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level

“Rule Number One is this: If you’re open to learning, you get your life-lessons delivered as gently as the tickle of a feather. But if you’re defensive, if you stubbornly persist in being right instead of learning the lesson at hand, if you stop paying attention to the tickles, the nudges, the clues—boom! Sledgehammer.”
― Gay Hendricks, The First Rule of Ten

“I want to make a commitment to you, to create a passionate, creative lifelong relationship with you. Is this what you want?”
― Gay Hendricks, Five Wishes: How Answering One Simple Question Can Make Your Dreams Come True

“Welcome the back talk, because it's completely natural and normal. It's actually a sign that the new idea you've planted in your mind is taking root.”
― Gay Hendricks, Five Wishes: How Answering One Simple Question Can Make Your Dreams Come True

“If you focus for a moment, you can always find some place in you that feels good right now. Your task is to give the expanding positive feeling your full attention. When you do, you will find that it expands with your attention. Let yourself enjoy it as long as you possibly can. As”
― Gay Hendricks, The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level

“Co-commitment is made possible when two people deal with their sense of responsibility and integrity. Being alive to the full range of your feelings, speaking the truth at the deepest level of which you are capable, and learning to keep agreements: all of these actions are required to master a co-committed relationship. When these three requirements are met, the real intimacy begins to unfold. A co-committed relationship may look like magic, but it really is composed of tiny moments of choice. Choosing to tell the truth. Noticing that you are projecting, and finding the courage to take responsibility. Choosing to feel rather than go numb. Choosing to communicate about a broken agreement. Choosing to support your partner as he or she goes through deep feeling. Ultimately, once these skills are practiced and internalized, the relationship flows effortlessly. Once your nervous system learns to stay at a high level of aliveness and does not need to numb itself by lying, breaking agreements, and hiding feelings, the creativity starts to flow.”
― Gay Hendricks, Conscious Loving: The Journey to Co-Committment

“We humans have a long and wonderful history of transcending our beliefs about what’s possible.”
― Gay Hendricks, The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level

“like my body—I may not control the expiration date, but I can certainly influence the quality of the shelf life.”
― Gay Hendricks, The First Rule of Ten

“What do I most love to do? (I love it so much I can do it for long stretches of time without getting tired or bored.)”
― Gay Hendricks, The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level

“The temptation is strong to remain in the Zone of Excellence; it’s where your own addiction to comfort wants you to stay. It’s also where your family, friends, and organization want you to stay. You’re reliable there, and you provide a steady supply of all the things that family, friends, and organizations thrive on. The problem is that a deep, sacred part of you will wither and die if you stay inside your Zone of Excellence.”
― Gay Hendricks, The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level

“There is the relationship between the two of you as real people, and there is the relationship between the two shadows. The shadow is the part of us we do not know about. It is the hidden repository of all our old feelings and patterns. You come into the relationship bringing a shadow with you, as does the other person. If you and the other person do not look into what these shadows contain, your relationship will be between two shadows instead of the two of you as real people.”
― Gay Hendricks, Conscious Loving: The Journey to Co-Committment

“To prevent humiliating collisions with the universe, I suggest we all adopt an attitude of being open to learning in every moment of our relationships. Every interaction contains within it the possibility of deep connection with our beloved, with ourselves, and with the cosmos. Relationship is the ultimate spiritual path, because it constantly presents us with the challenge to love and embrace in the very situations in which we're most prone to shun and reject. For that reason above all, relationship is the place where our spirituality most visibly comes to light. You can tell more about a person's true spirituality from the way he or she treats his or her partner than you ever could from tallying that person's church attendance.”
― Gay Hendricks, The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level

“Later in life I came across a stunning passage from The Meditations of Marcus Aurelius, which spoke directly to me across time from first-century Rome: I am part of the whole, all of which is governed by nature…. I am intimately related to all the parts, which are of the same kind as myself. If I remember these two things, I cannot be discontented with anything that arises out of the whole, because I am connected to the whole. A Roman emperor would seem to have little in common with a kid in a sleepy southern town. Somehow, though, the same awareness showed up in both of us. Why and how could that be? After wondering about those questions for many years, I’ve now become convinced that we eventually become aware of our unity with the whole because it’s inescapable. The awareness is wired into us, because we’re wired into the universe. We can try with all our might to pretend we’re separate from the rest of the universe, but one way or the other it will catch up to us and welcome us back into its embrace.”
― Gay Hendricks, The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level

“This won’t last forever, but it’s wonderful while it’s happening.”
― Gay Hendricks, The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level

“Self-criticism and criticizing others are one and the same. In other words, self-blame is part of the same Upper Limit pattern as blaming someone else. Both criticizing yourself and criticizing others are highly addictive and very popular ways of busting up the flow of positive energy.”
― Gay Hendricks, The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level

“Your capacity expands in small increments each time you consciously let yourself enjoy the money you have, the love you feel, and the creativity you are expressing in the world. As that capacity for enjoyment expands, so does your financial abundance, the love you feel, and the creativity you express. Take”
― Gay Hendricks, The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level

“With a strong commitment to inquiring into yourself, the universe does not have to use catastrophes to wake you up.”
― Gay Hendricks, Conscious Loving: The Journey to Co-Committment

“True independence is not based on fear. It contains within it an ability to be close to others, coupled with a choice to be free and autonomous.”
― Gay Hendricks, Conscious Loving: The Journey to Co-Committment

“Simply put, if you have some emotion within you that you don’t know how to manage, you seal that emotion away and start trying to manage other people’s versions of it.”
― Gay Hendricks, The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level