R.E. Geffner MD > Quotes

“You are not first evaluated by what you know. You are first evaluated by how you show up. Before you say a single word, the patient has already begun forming a conclusion about you. Not an opinion. A conclusion.”
― R.E. Geffner MD, Beyond Diagnosis: How to Develop Strong Relationships Between Healthcare Providers and Their Patients

“True, real, present, gentle listening is one of the most powerful acts of devotion. It tells the other person: You are real. You matter. You don't have to fight to exist here.”
― R.E. Geffner MD, 20 Reasons Why People Dump Each Other

“True respect is not tested when things are peaceful; it is forged in the fires of conflict and emotional strain.”
― R.E. Geffner MD, Respect: Evaluation, Assessment, and Fundamentals in Healthy Relationships

“Many people struggle in relationships not only because others have broken trust, but because past experiences have changed the way they view safety, vulnerability, love, or emotional dependence itself.”
― R.E. Geffner MD, Trust: Evaluation, Assessment, and Fundamentals in Healthy Relationships

“You cannot change the past, but you can transform the future, if you choose to stay awake in love”
― R.E. Geffner MD, 20 Reasons Why People Dump Each Other

“Emotional regulation is not about becoming emotionless, detached, or emotionally perfect. Healthy emotional regulation allows individuals to experience emotions honestly while learning how to respond thoughtfully rather than react impulsively.”
― R.E. Geffner MD, Emotional Regulation: Evaluation, Assessment, and Fundamentals in Healthy Relationships

“Without words, clarity is delayed. And without clarity, change is delayed.”
― R.E. Geffner MD, The Ultimate 1,000 Quotes and 50 Topics in Romantic Relationships: Love Doesn't End Suddenly - It Fades in What We Fail to Notice