Juli Slattery > Quotes

“Underneath your sexuality is the drive and desire to be known and loved. God created you as a sexual being so that you might understand what it means to long, to desire, and to crave intimate oneness. Your sexuality was never meant to be an isolated physiological urge that is expressed apart from the rest of who you are as a woman. You have longings to share your heart, soul, and body with another person because God made you a deeply relational and spiritual woman. Your greatest need for intimacy however is to know the god who created you.”
― Juli Slattery, Sex and the Single Girl

“Being true to ourselves doesn’t make us people of integrity. Charles Manson was true to himself, and as a result, he rightly is spending the rest of his life in prison. Ultimately, being true to our Creator gives us the purest form of integrity.”
― Juli Slattery, Sex and the Single Girl

“Today, we are too sophisticated to invent names for what we worship, yet we continue to worship love.”
― Juli Slattery, Pulling Back the Shades: Erotica, Intimacy, and the Longings of a Woman's Heart

“For Christians, morality isn’t simply based on not hurting someone else, but our reverence for the Creator’s design and intentions.”
― Juli Slattery, Rethinking Sexuality: God's Design and Why It Matters

“Sex is never just about sex.”
― Juli Slattery, Surrendered Sexuality: How Knowing Jesus Changes... Everything

“Our culture encourages you to explore sexually as a way of finding and expressing who you are. God wants you to think about your sexuality in terms of whose you are. Do you belong to God? Have you trusted in Him for life and salvation? If so, “you were bought with a price” (1 Cor. 6:20).”
― Juli Slattery, Sex and the Single Girl

“All of us have a deep, imbedded desire to make a profound difference in the life of a man. The desire to help the man you love is a worthy aspiration. In fact, it’s biblical. God created you to be a completer or “helper” for the man you marry.”
― Juli Slattery, Pulling Back the Shades: Erotica, Intimacy, and the Longings of a Woman's Heart

“As Christians, we need to understand that sexuality is not primarily a cultural problem. It is a very personal spiritual terrain that plays out against the backdrop of culture.”
― Juli Slattery, Surrendered Sexuality: How Knowing Jesus Changes... Everything

“Your sexuality was never meant to be separate from your deepest spiritual and relational longings but to be an expression of them.”
― Juli Slattery

“I simply loved feeling wanted and fought for. This desire is set deep in the heart of every little girl—and every woman. Yet most of us are ashamed of it. We downplay it.”
― Juli Slattery, Pulling Back the Shades: Erotica, Intimacy, and the Longings of a Woman's Heart

“The end result of living in fantasy is disillusionment, dissatisfaction, and ungratefulness in reality.”
― Juli Slattery, Pulling Back the Shades: Erotica, Intimacy, and the Longings of a Woman's Heart

“heart was designed for adventure, intrigue, romance, and suspense.”
― Juli Slattery, Pulling Back the Shades: Erotica, Intimacy, and the Longings of a Woman's Heart

“The barriers and differences my husband and I experience are not simply problems I need to accept. They each represent an invitation for us to love each other. In stretching to love each other, we catch a glimpse of how passionate and steadfast Jesus’s love is.”
― Juli Slattery, Rethinking Sexuality: God's Design and Why It Matters

“I would rather this young woman marry a broken man who walks in grace than a “perfect” man who is spiritually proud and independent.”
― Juli Slattery, Rethinking Sexuality: God's Design and Why It Matters

“Surrendering to Jesus as Lord means that we value His truth over our personal opinions and experiences.”
― Juli Slattery, Rethinking Sexuality: God's Design and Why It Matters

“Your sexuality is either drawing you closer to God or it is a barrier to true intimacy and fellowship with Him.”
― Juli Slattery, Sex and the Single Girl

“We don’t know who we are until we know whose we are. Human beings were made to attach, to belong, and to bond. God created us to be in families, to have committed and significant relationships, and to feel like we belong. Unfortunately, we live in a digital and mobile world in which the intimacy and belonging we so long for are sabotaged.”
― Juli Slattery, Surrendered Sexuality: How Knowing Jesus Changes... Everything

“My whole ministry is devoted to helping women restore their marriages and grow in love. But a good thing that becomes the primary thing immediately becomes an immoral thing. Love, sex, and marriage are prime candidates.”
― Juli Slattery, Pulling Back the Shades: Erotica, Intimacy, and the Longings of a Woman's Heart

“We don’t have a sex problem. We have an intimacy problem.”
― Juli Slattery, Surrendered Sexuality: How Knowing Jesus Changes... Everything

“God's design for a wife to submit is not to take away her power but to channel it in a way that builds a courageous lover and leader in her husband. God's plan works!”
― Dr Juli Slattery, Pulling Back the Shades: Erotica, Intimacy, and the Longings of a Woman's Heart

“Christians should be the greatest psychologists on the planet. Our study of psychology and every other endeavor must be rooted in Scripture, led by the Spirit, and surrendered to God’s authority. We should wholeheartedly commit ourselves to understanding and integrating as much as we can about how God created humanity, how the Fall has resulted in brokenness, and how God brings healing to broken minds, souls, and relationships.”
― Juli Slattery, Rethinking Sexuality: God's Design and Why It Matters

“Whether you are addicted to crack cocaine or addicted to the love of of a fantasy man makes no difference. They both keep you enslaved to something that has replaced God.”
― Dr Juli Slattery, Pulling Back the Shades: Erotica, Intimacy, and the Longings of a Woman's Heart

“For God created the marriage relationship to point to a greater reality. From the moment marriage was instituted, God aimed to give the world an illustration of the Gospel.”
― Juli Slattery, Rethinking Sexuality: God's Design and Why It Matters

“Women have incredible power in marriage: the power to destroy their husbands or the power to build them up.”
― Juli Slattery, Pulling Back the Shades: Erotica, Intimacy, and the Longings of a Woman's Heart

“Sexual morality isn't about a set of rules, but about honoring the holiness of God.”
― Juli Slattery, Sex and the Single Girl

“Typically, we think of sexuality as the same thing as sex. Sexuality is the aspect of our humanity that causes us to desire intimate connections with others. It means far more than the act of sex. This includes our gender, physiological bodies, and psychological experiences. So as we look at surrendering our sexuality, we will be addressing much more than sexual behavior.”
― Juli Slattery, Surrendered Sexuality: How Knowing Jesus Changes... Everything

“Your greatest problem is not your sexual temptations, your desires, or your wounds. Your greatest problem is that you don’t believe the foundational truth of what God says about you. You might be able to tell your neighbor with great conviction, “God loves you! He forgives you!” But you can’t quite believe that enough to stake your own life on that truth.”
― Juli Slattery, Surrendered Sexuality: How Knowing Jesus Changes... Everything

“Honoring the Lord means, by faith, pressing into all that He is with great confidence. With that assurance, we can ask any question, turn over every rock, and expose every mess without fear.”
― Juli Slattery, Rethinking Sexuality: God's Design and Why It Matters

“Submission is all power…not weakness.”
― Dr Juli Slattery

“As a Christian, surrender isn’t ultimately about what we let go of, but about how much of God we are ready to embrace.”
― Juli Slattery, Surrendered Sexuality: How Knowing Jesus Changes... Everything