Martin N. Seif > Quotes

“Despite how surprising and counterintuitive it may seem, your tendency to seek reassurance is more of a problem than your worry itself. The solution to your distress is to feel more comfortable and confident with uncertainty.”
― Martin N. Seif, Needing to Know for Sure: A CBT-Based Guide to Overcoming Compulsive Checking and Reassurance Seeking

“One subtle form of memory checking happens while reading: you find yourself going back over what you just read, over and over, to make sure you remember or understand it fully, to be certain of what you just read. People with this form of memory checking often think of themselves as slow readers, but they are actually dealing with constant checking compulsions.”
― Martin N. Seif, Needing to Know for Sure: A CBT-Based Guide to Overcoming Compulsive Checking and Reassurance Seeking

“A very common compulsive checking reassurance is reading and rereading and re-rereading information on the Internet, looking for unattainable certainty. Or checking texts and emails to make sure everything is okay or no one needs you urgently. Another is to apologize over and over to make sure that another person is not angry or upset about something you may have said or done.”
― Martin N. Seif, Needing to Know for Sure: A CBT-Based Guide to Overcoming Compulsive Checking and Reassurance Seeking