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“if this is part of an existential crisis, then it’s very important to remind yourself to get out of the house, in addition find people to talk to about it. My theory is that the reason death has such a severe impact on our lives is because it is NOT spoken of in public, and we feel like we’re left alone trying to understand death and dying. One immediate thing you can do is to find or join a “Death Café”, which are popping up around the U.S., Australia and Canada. Alternatively, you can start such a discussion group yourself. This can create a therapeutic outlet to contemplate the topics that are usually avoided in normal interaction.”
― C.K. Thomson, The Unseen Depression Cure: Expose Society's Hidden Influence on Behavior and Cure Depression Forever

“So, take some time to yourself, and tell your partner that’s what you’re doing. And, be positive about it. Say: “You know, I’m changing directions in life right now, going to shoot for some new goals, and I need some alone time to plan and strategize. So, I am going a beach for a while to think it through.” This will also create an inertia of independence, which is what you need.”
― C.K. Thomson, How to End a Relationship: How to Breakup Without Regret, Stay Positive and Feel Liberated!

“If you suspect your partner is a danger to him or herself or others; you can call the police for a “health and welfare” check. In communication with your partner, make it very clear that he or she is co-dependent and it’s extremely important for THEIR health that space is immediately granted and the relationship disconnects.”
― C.K. Thomson, How to End a Relationship: How to Breakup Without Regret, Stay Positive and Feel Liberated!

“If you are co-dependent, it’s likely the result of childhood trauma inflicted upon you. Your sense of identity is affected and your self-esteem hurt. Understand that it’s very important that, until you rectify these issues through counseling and personal growth, you should NOT enter relationships. A relationship may “seem” like the way to obtain the love and affection that you desire, but it’s NOT. You will never find fulfilling love from anywhere beyond yourself”
― C.K. Thomson, How to End a Relationship: How to Breakup Without Regret, Stay Positive and Feel Liberated!

“People don’t talk about death, and people don’t discuss how the rampant compulsion to buy shit and keep up with society’s expectations does the exact opposite of providing peace and happiness. So, by engaging these topics, I hope that the quality of your life will improve, and that people will begin discussing these important issues amongst each other. As we explore the disease of depression, I also hope that this book will help you to learn critical-thinking skills, and the ability to recognize the combination of external and internal forces that are creating the sensations of unhappiness that you desire to cure. The reason is because many people are affected by negative culture and ideas without even realizing that it’s such a source of anxiety and fear.”
― C.K. Thomson, The Unseen Depression Cure: Expose Society's Hidden Influence on Behavior and Cure Depression Forever

“Take a careful examination of your relationship. Try to do this in the most objective way possible. Try not to be deceived by “rose colored glasses”, as even the most unhealthy relationships do have some happy moments, but they’re no excuse to tolerate abusive conditions. Reinforce to yourself the concept of personal responsibility and agency. Your partner may be dependent on you, but that is THEIR choice. If they decide to act in a way that is self-harming, it is NOT your responsibility. Remind yourself that co-dependent behavior is NOT “normal” behavior. Often, a co-dependent person will suggest (and personally believe) that obsessive, unhealthy, or controlling behavior is how all relationships naturally are. This may be the result of childhood experiences”
― C.K. Thomson, How to End a Relationship: How to Breakup Without Regret, Stay Positive and Feel Liberated!

“Although the relationship may have many happy moments, it won’t hide the fact that you may also feel like you’re suffocating. You can’t spend time alone, you constantly feel guilty about things you should not feel guilty over, and also frequently mentally exhausted. You may also find your relationships with friends and family starts to suffer, and your co-dependent partner begins keeping you in a bubble. Instead of the relationship empowering you, you start to feel shut off from the outside world. You may entertain thoughts frequently of calling it off, but you become scared of “hurting” your partner. Indirect threats of self-harm or even suicide keep you from initiating a breakup.”
― C.K. Thomson, How to End a Relationship: How to Breakup Without Regret, Stay Positive and Feel Liberated!

“As a result, a lot of people tend to force themselves into lifestyles they resent. It builds, and builds, and culminates with an existential crisis. This can be a hard feeling, and depression is the common aftermath. Desiring a sense of purpose is a natural feeling everybody has. Oddly, many people feel ashamed for wanting something bigger, or better. This is sometimes because of how we are raised—to be grateful for what we have and to not be “greedy” by wanting more.”
― C.K. Thomson, The Unseen Depression Cure: Expose Society's Hidden Influence on Behavior and Cure Depression Forever