Keith Aaron Gilbert > Quotes

“The narcissist, cut off from her spirituality, is one who spends unquantifiable energy supporting and maintaining and utterly and completely fake self, in denial of one's true self, trading it for glamour to compensate for a core of being that is simply wracked,a deep dark cold void; using and abusing others to maintain and sustain the false state. this fake self is contrived in absentia from the connectivity that even the most unaware take for granted. The narcissist doesn't see other human beings.”
― Stacey Scott Mae

“There is no substantive difference between being stabbed to death in the living beating heart with a physical knife and feeling the plunging stabbing pain of betrayal.”
― Stacey Scott Mae, Just Sane Enough

“What I expected of my wife was an internal locus of control. I did not for one single second control or want to control one single thing that she did or didn't do. I hoped she would do these things because SHE wanted to do them, because they were the choices that she made in HER life ON HER OWN. I believed with all my heart that she was free, that we were free, to do as we pleased when we pleased to do it. We make our decisions and we roll with the consequences. If she didn't want to be a mother or didn't want to be a wife than I expected her to be honest about it, to say it, so that we could take steps and bring reality into line with our mutual desire.”
― Stacey Scott Mae, Just Sane Enough

“Before, all could have told her, "It's not your fault. You were the victim. You suffered the loss and the pain in the maw of abuse. You are not responsible." She hadn't ever been prepared to hear that in efficacy of the shame and the guilt she felt for the abuses inflicted upon her by the worst of the worst kinds of people in the world, but at least there was the ultimate solace of it not having been her fault.”
― Stacey Scott Mae

“She took my love and spent my energy, spent the stuff of my soul on anything but love and healing, on anything but getting herself back to herself.”
― Stacey Scott Mae, Just Sane Enough

“I validate myself, however, in my understanding that where there is no reason there can be little expectation.”
― Stacey Scott Mae, Just Sane Enough

“The trick was in the self-realization that my love-bond had dissolved into a suicide pact, and getting out before I completely lost my mind.”
― Stacey Scott Mae, Just Sane Enough