William Dameron > Quotes

“I told one of the monks that I was Christian, but this place, it felt so spiritual to me. Do you know what he said?” I shook my head. “‘Same God, different name.”
― William Dameron, The Lie: A Memoir of Two Marriages, Catfishing & Coming Out

“What we put out into the universe comes back to us, but who can predict the amount of time it takes to make its return, or what form it will assume?”
― William Dameron, The Lie: A Memoir of Two Marriages, Catfishing & Coming Out

“He could never thoroughly enjoy the attention because he was always too concerned it might end.”
― William Dameron, The Lie: A Memoir of Two Marriages, Catfishing & Coming Out

“They both grew up in small towns. As teenagers in the 1980s, they both dreamed of living in a place where they might be anonymous or at least surrounded by like-minded individuals, neither one realizing that some of the neighborhood kids and friends from their childhoods were like them, until”
― William Dameron, The Way Life Should Be

“she was too timid to address them as a group, and so I saw something else in her that drew me. Another mask that I could wear in addition to becoming her husband was that of a caretaker.”
― William Dameron, The Lie: A Memoir of Two Marriages, Catfishing & Coming Out

“We don’t notice what we don’t want to notice, and forget what we don’t want to remember.”
― William Dameron, The Way Life Should Be

“I built a wall around my friendship with Enzo, hiding it, but the things we hide become desperate to be seen.”
― William Dameron, The Lie: A Memoir of Two Marriages, Catfishing & Coming Out

“We are all of us an assimilation, a collection of bits and pieces of everything and everyone we love.”
― William Dameron, The Lie: A Memoir of Two Marriages, Catfishing & Coming Out

“Funny how a simple change, a well-timed question, a cavalier decision, can change your whole perception, make you feel weak or strong. Samson lost his strength when his locks were shorn, but that was how Abbie found hers. It had been there all along, just waiting to be uncovered.”
― William Dameron, The Way Life Should Be

“A dusty little town, the longing twang of a guitar chord, and the desolate landscape of Wyoming were all it took for me to know that Ennis Del Mar and Jack Twist’s relationship was doomed from the start. When it ended, one dirty, bloodstained shirt lovingly folded into the other, it ended me too. It felt shameful to watch that video, like I was watching porn, but perhaps even more sinful, because shame made gay love feel more pornographic than actual porn.”
― William Dameron, The Lie: A Memoir of Two Marriages, Catfishing & Coming Out

“The lotus grows in the mud, but it reaches up for the sun, and as it emerges it produces the most beautiful flower in the world. According to Buddha, every person has the potential to become enlightened and to become perfect. It is just a matter of time before we reach the light. If not in this life, then the next, or the one after that.”
― William Dameron, The Way Life Should Be

“can be helpful to know and understand the motivation of the person who hurt you in order to forgive them, but it is not necessary, because forgiveness is a solitary act that requires only one participant.”
― William Dameron, The Lie: A Memoir of Two Marriages, Catfishing & Coming Out

“Times change. People change. But Maine—with all of her craggy, windswept cliffs, crooked pines, and rocky beaches—remains steadfast, impervious to all this human foolishness.”
― William Dameron, The Way Life Should Be

“When the gods want to punish you, they answer your prayers.”
― William Dameron, The Lie: A Memoir of Two Marriages, Catfishing & Coming Out

“We think we know our spouses better than they know themselves, because in a way we create them, as if before us they were waiting to be brought to life. But”
― William Dameron, The Way Life Should Be

“If you look from another angle you’ll see a life built on shifting sands.”
― William Dameron, The Way Life Should Be

“Each of us carries a ghost child inside, whispering their fatal injuries in a language that can take the rest of our adult lives to hear.”
― William Dameron, The Way Life Should Be

“It was as if I were trying to lift the entire house above me, with all of its secrets and its silences.”
― William Dameron, The Lie: A Memoir of Two Marriages, Catfishing & Coming Out

“We don’t notice what we don’t want to notice, and forget what we don’t want to remember”
― William Dameron, The Way Life Should Be

“Joy was a summer day on the coast of southern Maine.”
― William Dameron, The Way Life Should Be

“Sometimes a marriage runs its course, and because we want to believe so desperately that love is infallible, we seek a single point of failure, as if we can create a map of all the land mines to avoid. A marriage merely survives if it steps gingerly forward and avoids explosives. It thrives when you love with abandon, understanding that the potential pain you might endure is no greater or less based on whether you shielded your heart or exposed it completely”
― William Dameron, The Way Life Should Be

“Do you ever think about what we missed, what it might have been like to be young and out and proud?” “No,” Sam said. “Not even straight people are guaranteed a fucking teenage romance, so get over it, bitch. You’ve got that hunky husband of yours—isn’t that enough?”
― William Dameron, The Way Life Should Be

“What we try to hide speaks louder than what we attempt to show.”
― William Dameron, The Way Life Should Be

“Sometimes we carry other people’s memories, because the burden becomes too heavy for one person to bear, and sometimes we carry their memories to bear witness, so that they may never fade away.”
― William Dameron, The Way Life Should Be

“How many details of a secret must be revealed before it is no longer considered a lie?”
― William Dameron, The Way Life Should Be

“He knows that the shadows appear at night, and in the morning, they will be gone. But what happens when the wiring of our brains become severed, or the circuitry grows old, when the shadows appear in the light of day, and the sun rises at night? The locks might keep the monsters from breaking into our homes, but what about the ones that are already hiding in the recesses of our minds?”
― William Dameron, The Way Life Should Be

“Without sadness, happiness cannot exist.”
― William Dameron, The Lie: A Memoir of Two Marriages, Catfishing & Coming Out

“Change comes in the form of daily decisions that you may never have considered unless presented with”
― William Dameron, The Way Life Should Be

“What happens when a family walks away in order to keep from being run over, and there is no safety net for the Bettyes of the world?”
― William Dameron, The Way Life Should Be

“Forgiveness is not given to help the one who hurt you, but to navigate through the pain in order to free yourself.”
― William Dameron, The Lie: A Memoir of Two Marriages, Catfishing & Coming Out