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“If something can´t hurt me, then why should it scare me?”
― Jia Jiang, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection

“But by not even asking, we are rejecting ourselves by default—and probably missing out on opportunity as a result. A 2011”
― Jia Jiang, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection

“Rejection is just an opinion, remember? It reflects them more than me, right?”
― Jia Jiang, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection

“It doesn’t matter how amazing your performance or products are, if you target the wrong audience, who don’t recognize, appreciate, or need your value, your effort will be both wasted and rejected.”
― Jia Jiang, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection

“When you are not afraid of rejection and it feels like you have nothing to lose, amazing things can happen.”
― Jia Jiang, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection

“Rejection Is Human: Rejection is a human interaction with two sides. It often says more about the rejector than the rejectee, and should never be used as the universal truth and sole judgment of merit.”
― Jia Jiang, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection

“Ask “Why” Before Good-bye: Sustain the conversation after the initial rejection. The magic word is “why,” which can often reveal the underlying reason for the rejection and present the rejectee with the opportunity to overcome the issue.”
― Jia Jiang, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection

“In the end, what we really need is not acceptance from others but acceptance from ourselves.”
― Jia Jiang, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection

“constant approval-seeking causes us to bend ourselves in ways that are not authentic.”
― Jia Jiang, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection

“If something can't hurt me, then why should it scare me?”
― Jia Jiang, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection

“Is your dream bigger than your rejections? If it is, maybe it´s time to keep going, instead of giving up”
― Jia Jiang, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection

“Rejection Is an Opinion: Rejection is an opinion of the rejector. It is heavily influenced by historical context, cultural differences, and psychological factors. There is no universal rejection or acceptance.”
― Jia Jiang, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection

“Retreat, Don’t Run: By not giving up after the initial rejection, and instead retreating to a lesser request, one has a much higher chance of landing a yes.”
― Jia Jiang, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection

“Rejection Therapy—a game of sorts developed by a Canadian entrepreneur named Jason Comely, in which you purposely and repeatedly seek out rejection to desensitize yourself to the pain of the word no.”
― Jia Jiang, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection

“If I could get custom-made Olympic donuts from Krispy Kreme without even trying, what else was possible if I just asked? A better question: What was possible if I really tried hard?”
― Jia Jiang, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection

“the way you ask a question—and how you follow through in the conversation—has an impact on the result you get. It might not change the outcome, but it can take a lot of the sting out of hearing no. Projecting confidence and staying calm—rather than cowering—had created a totally different experience.”
― Jia Jiang, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection

“Asking why can open up a whole new channel of understanding and possibility between a requester and requestee. But so can retreating to ask, "If you can't do this, can you do something else?"... Every no is actually surrounded by a whole bunch of interesting but invisible yeses that it was up to me to uncover.”
― Jia Jiang, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection

“When you are not afraid of rejection and it feels like you have nothing to lose, Amazing things can happen”
― Jia Jiang, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible through 100 Days of Rejection

“There is a ton of anecdotal evidence that humor helps to reduce pain and stress..." "Researchers have even proved that humor -- and laughter specifically -- can actually mitigate pain.”
― Jia Jiang, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection

“Before launching my rejection journey, whenever I'd ask other people for something -- whether it was a job venture funding, or to buy something that I was selling -- I never wanted to bring up or discuss any underlying doubts and questions they might have. I thought doing so would undermine my cause and actually hand them a reason to say no to me. I hoped that by not mentioning their doubts, those doubts would simply go away, or at least remain hidden. Nut, in most cases, other people's doubts do not disappear by themselves. Instead, they can linger and are more likely to become the very reason for a rejection if you don't take control of them.”
― Jia Jiang, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection

“I wish I'd had the courage to life a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me." (The Top Five Regrets of Dying, Bronnie Ware)”
― Jia Jiang, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection

“As the Wizard carried on with his terrifying display, Dorothy's little dog, Toto, trotted over to a large curtain in the corner of the room. He tugged it down, suddenly revealing the real Wizard. He was a normal-looking gray-haired man operating an audio and visual machine to create the terrifying image in order to scare his visitors.

In reality, there was nothing frightening about this man -- what became larger than life were the rumors, the mysteries, and the facade that the Wizard had constructed around himself.”
― Jia Jiang, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection

“What I learned is this: rejection is an experience that is up to you to define. In other words, it means only what you choose it to mean. The relationship you have with rejection can be negative or positive, and it all depends on which way you spin in for yourself.”
― Jia Jiang, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection

“There are those who look at things the way they are, and ask why…. I dream things that never were, and ask why not.” —ROBERT KENNEDY”
― Jia Jiang, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection