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“They were not actively mentoring and encouraging individuality in the child.  The child learned how to survive, but not how to thrive.  They carried these survival mechanisms into adulthood, and never stopped to realize that this was no way to live.”
― J.B. Snow, Gaslighting: The Ultimate Narcissistic Mind Control

“He will avoid the home and family life, which is the location which he feels the least successful overall due to his lack of adequate role-modeling and his lack in communication skills.”
― J.B. Snow, Gaslighting: The Ultimate Narcissistic Mind Control

“Birthday parties and events will be thrown for the child to elicit admiration and attention from others.  However, the child will be punished, berated and humiliated in the middle of the party in front of an audience if they behave against the expectations of the self-absorbed mother.  The party only serves to generate additional narcissistic supply for the mother, not a pleasurable event for the child.  Events are scheduled, changed, and cancelled in order to exert and announce control over the child.  They make it very apparent to the child that the mother can both give pleasure and take pleasure away by these means. ”
― J.B. Snow, 88 Tell-Tale Signs of Narcissistic Mothers and Toxic Mothers: Overt and Covert Narcissistic Abuse