Teal Swan > Quotes

“What would someone who loves themselves do?”
― Teal Swan, Shadows Before Dawn: Finding the Light of Self-Love through Your Darkest Times

“It may be uncomfortable to express your own thoughts and feelings. It may also be uncomfortable to hear the truth of someone else's current thoughts and feelings. But those thoughts and feelings should never be suppressed. The only way that anyone can be in a real relationship is if those current truths are out on the table. Otherwise we can not really love the person we think we love, because we don't even see the truth of who they are in this moment. We are in essence, in love with an illusion. We are in essence, asking people to love an illusion of ourselves unless we are willing to be vulnerable and open enough to show them the truth of who we are in this moment.”
― Teal Swan

“decide to make how you feel the number one priority in your life—in”
― Teal Swan, Shadows Before Dawn: Finding the Light of Self-Love through Your Darkest Times

“It is sad to me how intense fear frosts my happiest moments. This is a trend in my life due to years of losing everything that I loved. If I love something, I fear the loss of that thing to a degree that my bone marrow begins to ache. I mourn it before it is even gone.”
― Teal Swan

“One of the leading techniques that is used in trauma integration involves a process where you consciously revisit traumatizing memories, rescue your childhood self out of each of those memories, and then bring those childhood versions of you to a safe space where you then reparent them.”
― Teal Swan, Shadows Before Dawn: Finding the Light of Self-Love through Your Darkest Times

“Truly happy people see the value in negativity.”
― Teal Swan

“In the beginning, spirituality is a seeking practice. We seek peace, we seek joy, we seek wisdom, we seek awakening, we seek self betterment. Farther down the road, the realization comes that we already are the peace and joy and wisdom and awakening and self betterment that we seek. At that point, spirituality becomes what it is… Not a practice of seeking anything. But a practice of uncovering what was there inside you all along. You already are the light at the end of the tunnel. You already are the wisdom, you already are the peace, you already are the joy. You already are awakened, you already are perfect. All that’s left is for you to discover that you are.”
― Teal Swan

“Parents and adults in our society found a way to preserve their own self-concept, and that was through feeding themselves, as well as you, with the belief “It’s for your own good.” We are fed this lie from day one. Even those of us who grow up in the most loving households are fed this lie. We make our children sit through hours of lessons in the prison-like environment we call school and tell them it’s for their own good. We discipline them in ways that are painful to their minds and bodies and tell them that it’s for their own good.”
― Teal Swan, Shadows Before Dawn: Finding the Light of Self-Love through Your Darkest Times

“We are afraid of what will be in the room with us if we stop being busy.”
― Teal Swan, The Sculptor In The Sky

“I was unfixable, I saw that my innocence didn’t go anywhere. Like the tiny flame on the end of a matchstick, it may have flickered, but it didn’t die. I found my inherent goodness again. I found the part of me that couldn’t be harmed by the people who found a way to harm everything else about me. Gradually, I began to reparent myself. By loving and caring for my inner”
― Teal Swan, Shadows Before Dawn: Finding the Light of Self-Love through Your Darkest Times

“Observing and then letting go is one of the most important skills to acquire in the quest to create positive change, as is knowledge of stillness.”
― Teal Swan, The Sculptor In The Sky

“If you remove yourself far enough from the limited point of view of pain, you will see that at the root of all things that are negative in this world is the physical fact that we are all nothing but the victims of victims.”
― Teal Swan, The Sculptor In The Sky

“A thousand times we die in one life. We crumble, break and tear apart until the layers of illusion are burned away and all that is left, is the truth of who and what we really are.”
― Teal Swan, The Sculptor In The Sky

“But you will know the more you get it touch with your transcendental mind (and therefore truth) that there is no such thing as a victim. The negative benefits you more than anything else in your evolution and the evolution of all that is.”
― Teal Swan, The Sculptor In The Sky

“All too often, people take no action until the fear goes away. But life cannot be lived like that. It cannot be lived like that anymore than it can be lived in spite of fear.”
― Teal Swan, The Anatomy of Loneliness: How to Find Your Way Back to Connection

“Never downplay the power and importance of imagination. Nothing manifests in your reality without having been imagined first. Every single thing that you eventually come to life has been imagined first.”
― Teal Swan

“The truth is that an enlightened person has made a practice of releasing all resistance from his or her being. It’s not that they never experience conflict or pain. It’s that they are willing to be open to experiencing conflict and pain.”
― Teal Swan, The Completion Process: The Practice of Putting Yourself Back Together Again

“Without a healthy emotional life, a relationship is not a relationship; it is a social arrangement where no intimacy or connection exists.”
― Teal Swan, The Completion Process: The Practice of Putting Yourself Back Together Again

“self-rejection is the birth of
self-hate.”
― Teal Swan, The Completion Process: The Practice of Putting Yourself Back Together Again

“Your true nature is unquantifiable.”
― Teal Swan

“The emptiness that we feel is the result of those rejected (and therefore
suppressed) parts of ourselves. Your soul wants only one thing, and that is to
make you whole again.”
― Teal Swan, The Completion Process: The Practice of Putting Yourself Back Together Again

“You cannot be happy if you run from pain, because to run from or try to avoid something is to be focused backward, toward the problem.”
― Teal Swan

“Frustration to what has been binds you to what has been. Healthy acceptance sets you free.”
― Teal Swan, The Sculptor In The Sky

“Your thinking mind is a tool for your observing mind.”
― Teal Swan

“True forgiveness is forgetfulness.”
― Teal Swan, The Sculptor In The Sky

“The word loneliness never seems adequate to describe the torment of starvation for closeness. My life had been plagued by loneliness. And fame, which came as a natural accessory to my career, only served to accentuate it like a magnifying glass. I had spent my life never feeling seen, heard, understood or wanted. Fame made finding that closeness that I craved so desperately even harder to attain. To the outside world it seemed that everyone valued and wanted me, but nothing could be further from the truth. People saw me, felt me and understood me less than before. I was surrounded by people but I was nothing more to them than the projections they placed on me. The only value I had, and the only reason they wanted me, was for what they could get through me.”
― Teal Swan, The Anatomy of Loneliness: How to Find Your Way Back to Connection

“do you give yourself enough attention? Do you settle for second best? When you look in the mirror, does your attention immediately gravitate toward flaws? When you are sad, do you tell yourself to “get over it”? Do you try to suppress or silence your feelings by being passive-aggressive or indulging in an addiction? Just take some time to look at your life, and write down all the ways in which”
― Teal Swan, Shadows Before Dawn: Finding the Light of Self-Love through Your Darkest Times

“In a world that sees dirt as a negative, it is like seeing the dirt’s worth to the flower.”
― Teal Swan

“Your existence in the physical dimension is all the justification you will ever need of worth.”
― Teal Swan

“We can also develop an aversion to happiness when we are acquainted with happy people who are often unwilling to look at anything they feel is negative.”
― Teal Swan