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“Nothing changes until the pain of remaining the same is greater than the pain of changing.”
― Jim Burns, Creating an Intimate Marriage: Rekindle Romance Through Affection, Warmth and Encouragement

“The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.”
― Jim Burns, Creating an Intimate Marriage: Rekindle Romance Through Affection, Warmth and Encouragement

“If the devil can’t make you bad, he will make you busy.”
― Jim Burns, Creating an Intimate Marriage: Rekindle Romance Through Affection, Warmth and Encouragement

“Remember, you can’t change what has happened to you in the past, but you can take steps to ensure a better tomorrow.”
― Jim Burns, Creating an Intimate Marriage: Rekindle Romance Through Affection, Warmth and Encouragement

“Changing directions in life is not tragic. Losing passion in life is.”
― Jim Burns, Closer: Devotions to Draw Couples Together

“Far too many couples settle for mediocrity in their marriage when they would never settle for second-best in other areas of their life.”
― Jim Burns, Creating an Intimate Marriage: Rekindle Romance Through Affection, Warmth and Encouragement

“Lincoln said it best: “People are just about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”
― Jim Burns, Creating an Intimate Marriage: Rekindle Romance Through Affection, Warmth and Encouragement

“A woman accompanied her husband to the doctor’s office. After his very thorough checkup, the doctor sent the husband into the waiting area and called the wife into his office for a confidential assessment. In a concerned tone, he said, “Your husband is suffering from a severe disease combined with horrible stress. It looks as though he may die soon unless you commit to the following actions: Each morning fix him a full, warm, healthy breakfast. Always be in a good mood. Be constantly pleasant to make sure he doesn’t feel any additional stress. Make him a nice lunch, and for the next year really try to go overboard and cook his favorite meals for dinner. Don’t burden him with household chores; he can’t handle the additional pressure. Don’t discuss your problems with him; it will only increase the tension. And most importantly, try to satisfy his every physical desire. If you can do this for the next ten to twelve months, I’m confident your husband will fully regain his health.” On the way home, the husband asked, “So, what did the doctor say to you?” His wife paused for a long time and then responded, “He said you are going to die.”
― Jim Burns, Getting Ready for Marriage: A Practical Road Map for Your Journey Together

“a la cultura secular le emociona dar su opinión acerca de la sexualidad. Películas, televisión, música, el Internet y muchas celebridades expresan actitudes que son prácticamente lo contrario a los valores que queremos transmitir. No podemos esperar que la cultura secular presente una moralidad y valores saludables a nuestros hijos. Eso es función nuestra. Quedarse callado o quejarse no ayuda a nuestros hijos.”
― Jim Burns, Educación sexual sana para tus hijos: Un método bíblico para prepararlos para la vida

“was deeply inspired by this story of a grandmother’s faith now influencing the great-grandchildren she never even met. My frequent and”
― Jim Burns, Doing Life with Your Adult Children: Keep Your Mouth Shut and the Welcome Mat Out

“prayer “is the root, the fountain, the mother of a thousand blessings.”
― Jim Burns, Closer: Devotions to Draw Couples Together

“Try not to become a person of success, but rather a person of value.”
― Jim Burns, Closer: Devotions to Draw Couples Together

“Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry” (James 1:19). That’s especially important for those of us who are fix-it people. If I am a fix-it person and my kids have a problem, I consider it my job to intervene. That’s what I do, and that’s who I am—Mr. Fix-It. But unless our adult kids ask us for help, we must resist the impulse to fix their problems.”
― Jim Burns, Doing Life with Your Adult Children: Keep Your Mouth Shut and the Welcome Mat Out

“DO YOUR KIDS A FAVOR: LOVE YOUR SPOUSE”
― Jim Burns, Closer: Devotions to Draw Couples Together

“No marriage is offense free. Two sinful people living together have lots of opportunity for heartfelt apology.”
― Jim Burns, Closer: Devotions to Draw Couples Together

“When a couple is under-connected and over-committed, they begin to live their lives in crisis mode. They spin the plates of marriage, children, work, church, extended family, school activities, and so on. In the mix of everything else, they find less and less time to spin the marriage plate. The result? They end up in an unsatisfactory “business partnership” marriage. These kinds of relationships resemble what happens in our financial affairs. Deposits and withdrawals must be monitored carefully to guard against overdrafts in our bank accounts. In the same way, when we skimp on the important relationships in our lives, our emotional bank accounts run empty. If”
― Jim Burns, Creating an Intimate Marriage: Rekindle Romance Through Affection, Warmth and Encouragement

“The only thing that a critical spirit, nagging, and negativity bring to a relationship is lack of intimacy. Many people were raised in homes where “shame-based parenting” was the rule rather than the exception. For many, there is a natural tendency to focus on the negative side of life, but that just doesn’t work in relationships. There is incredible power in encouragement and affirmation. Mark Twain once said, “I can live two months on one good compliment.”
― Jim Burns, Creating an Intimate Marriage: Rekindle Romance Through Affection, Warmth and Encouragement

“God never promised to take away our problems, but He did promise to meet our deepest needs, often through our weakness.”
― Jim Burns, Closer: Devotions to Draw Couples Together

“Actually, many engaged couples give more thought and consideration to their one-day wedding experience than they do to what will happen in the many years following.”
― Jim Burns, Getting Ready for Marriage: A Practical Road Map for Your Journey Together

“1. Be encouraging but not intrusive. You are a consultant at their will. Your job is to be caring and supportive of your child, to mentor only when called upon, and to be your child’s biggest cheerleader.”
― Jim Burns, Doing Life with Your Adult Children: Keep Your Mouth Shut and the Welcome Mat Out

“GettingReadyForMarriage.com.”
― Jim Burns, Getting Ready for Marriage: A Practical Road Map for Your Journey Together

“Love is a feeling; romance is love in action.”*”
― Jim Burns, Closer: Devotions to Draw Couples Together

“You need the discipline to say “no” to the extra clutter in your life so that you can say “yes” to the most important things with a good attitude. Not”
― Jim Burns, Getting Ready for Marriage: A Practical Road Map for Your Journey Together

“When a child is born, he is the closest he will ever be to the image of God.”26 Jesus also said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these” (Matt. 19:14). As a grandparent, you have the privilege of furthering God’s kingdom through the legacy you leave with your grandchildren. An incredible calling indeed! As I mentioned previously, I’ve done several focus groups and spoken to thousands of parents about doing life with adult children. Sometimes the atmosphere is tense”
― Jim Burns, Doing Life with Your Adult Children: Keep Your Mouth Shut and the Welcome Mat Out

“Remember that marriage is a humbling journey. When one sinner marries another sinner, there is always going to be trouble. And when these sinners have little "sinnerlings," there is even more trouble?”
― Jim Burns, Creating an Intimate Marriage: Rekindle Romance Through Affection, Warmth and Encouragement

“There is no more lovely, friendly, and charming relationship, communion, or company than a good marriage.”
― Jim Burns, Closer: Devotions to Draw Couples Together

“You don’t drown by falling in the water; you drown by staying there.”
― Jim Burns, Getting Ready for Marriage Workbook

“The right kind of marriage is not one of two hearts and two minds and even two souls; it is a marriage of three, with God being placed on the throne of your marriage.”
― Jim Burns, Closer: Devotions to Draw Couples Together

“lasting joy is not a matter of what’s happening around you, but inside you.”
― Jim Burns, Closer: Devotions to Draw Couples Together

“Where there is no counsel, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety” (Proverbs 11:14 NKJV).”
― Jim Burns, Getting Ready for Marriage Workbook