Stacey May Fowles > Quotes

“Sexual assault must simultaneously be terrible and be something you're able to accept--which is an impossibly hard thing to negotiate.”
― Stacey May Fowles, Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture

“The safe thing always is to run. To just assume you’re too fucked up to do anything that remotely resembles normal. The good wife. The doting father. The safe thing to do is to be satisfied with being abnormal. To accept being fucked up. And to be alone in your abnormality and fucked-uppedness. To know that you are bad and alone and there’s no fixing it or even wanting to. To not do the work.”
― Stacey May Fowles, Infidelity: A Novel

“The best way to deal with the voice that tells you that you're not good enough, or smart enough, or qualified enough, is to wake up every day and prove it wrong.”
― Stacey May Fowles, Baseball Life Advice

“We habitually compare ourselves to others to a debilitating degree, believing our successes can only be captured by how much we've outpaced someone else. We deal in acceptable ideas. We disregard our own capabilities. We waste a lot of time and emotion on what everyone else is doing well or badly, when we should be investing in and celebrating ourselves. And sometimes we simply forget that we like our own company, or that we love things for our own, deeply personal, individualistic reasons.

In short, we forget ourselves, and how to be alone.”
― Stacey May Fowles, Baseball Life Advice

“We're happy to participate in something we are deeply afraid will break out hearts, because we know, no matter the outcome it makes our lives richer and better.”
― Stacey May Fowles, Baseball Life Advice

“The thing that matters most is how the game brings out our shared humanity. It is a lesson we are all in need of, and one was taught in the most cruel and unfair way.”
― Stacey May Fowles, Baseball Life Advice

“Though we often throw around the idea, there really is no sacred Church of Baseball-there are only the people who built it and the people who fill it, together. There is no actual magic, only the shared feelings of a community who believes in that magic.”
― Stacey May Fowles, Baseball Life Advice

“Men go to the ballpark with an assumed knowledge and interest, whereas women need to constantly demonstrate how much they know and care.”
― Stacey May Fowles, Baseball Life Advice

“Baseball can indeed break your heart, but, without fail, it will always find a way to make it whole again.”
― Stacey May Fowles, Baseball Life Advice