Richard Weissbourd

“Not infrequently, parents fail to help children grasp their responsibility for a community. Often we as parents don’t convey to our children that they have obligations to small communities like a sports team or a school choir or a dance troupe. How many of us ever simply mention to our children that a school is not just a place to learn but a community, or that a neighborhood is a community that carries obligations?”
― Richard Weissbourd, The Parents We Mean to Be: How Well-Intentioned Adults Undermine Children's Moral and Emotional Development

“Too much global praise—when kids are frequently told that they are “great” or “terrific”—creates particular dangers. Such praise can train children to think that their essential value, their entire worth, is the issue in many contexts. Their selves always at stake, these children are prone to inflate their importance, both positively and negatively. The self acquires false credit and false dues, and these children can develop, as the psychologist Robert Karen notes, both a distorted, narcissistic picture of their value and a high vulnerability to shame.”
― Richard Weissbourd, The Parents We Mean to Be: How Well-Intentioned Adults Undermine Children's Moral and Emotional Development