Deborah Frances-White

“Much of confidence is recognising times when there is nothing truly at stake and that failure can be seen as ‘gathering data’ rather than evidence that we as individuals are ‘no good’ at something.”
― Deborah Frances-White, The Guilty Feminist: From Our Noble Goals to Our Worst Hypocrisies

“There are garments in all of our wardrobes we don't wear
because we don't dare. We bought the jumpsuit for when we
were feeling brave and it turns out we never are. A friend of
mine had a party and asked us to wear that thing we already
own that we never dare wear and it was the most wonderful
night. One woman wore her bridal gown. Others wore more
cleavage than clothes. Some wore glam rock shoes and velvet
capes. Others, tight jeans and crop tops. Some, cosplay cos
times. We were all given permission to say yes to our most
daring selves. The one we leave hanging up at home. You don't
have to be queer to leave the best part of yourself in the closet.
Most of us are doing it all the time,”
― Deborah Frances-White, The Guilty Feminist: From Our Noble Goals to Our Worst Hypocrisies