Carrie Jenkins

“Calling ourselves objective doesn't make us any less biased (in fact, there is some evidence that it might make us more so). Being "normal" doesn't mean you have no perspective and no baggage, although it does mean you're less likely to notice these things. In any case, we can't make genuine philosophical progress on the hard questions by stuffing our personal baggage behind the sofa of "objectivity" and hoping nobody looks there.”
― Carrie Jenkins, What Love Is: And What It Could Be

“Ultimately, I argue, we need to stop hearing “romantic” as a positive description. It’s actually something that should raise a sceptical eyebrow. I urge that we move towards understanding ideal love as eudaimonic, not romantic. I also think we would do well to stop thinking so much about whether our partners “make us happy” and focus instead on whether they lovingly collaborate with us in the co-creation of meaningful work, and of our selves.”
― Carrie Jenkins, Sad Love: Romance and the Search for Meaning