Robert Bolton

“At the opposite extreme, people are often reluctant to assert about the “little things” in life. They say, “I shouldn’t be so ‘small’ and ‘picky’ to be bothered by such an insignificant thing.” Sometimes we can truly develop more acceptance of another person’s behavior, but often a pseudoacceptance develops in the top of our mind while the irritation continues to grow in the depth of our gut.”
― Robert Bolton, People Skills: How to Assert Yourself, Listen to Others, and Resolve Conflicts

“Psychologists have discovered that when a person is repeatedly submissive in her interactions with another person, the other tends to feel guilty about getting her own way so much. This feeling generates pity, irritation, and finally disgust toward the submissive person.20”
― Robert Bolton, People Skills: How to Assert Yourself, Listen to Others, and Resolve Conflicts