Thomas M.J. Powell

“When dealing with a narcissist, it is always important to be wary of what they are saying and why they are saying it. A narcissist often will stray away from the actual issue and begin targeting you personally. They will purposely try to agitate you and will try to draw out an extreme reaction because the moment you lose control over your emotions, you are also losing control over the situation. If your partner can always influence you to lose your cool and become overly sensitive when an issue is brought up, that gives them more leverage to get their way and to put you down simply because you cared deeply about something.”
― Thomas M.J. Powell, Say NO to Narcissism: Recognizing & Recovering from Abusive and Covert Narcissism, Gaslighting and Passive-Aggressive Manipulation from Narcissistic Husbands, Parents, and Family.