Scott Allender

“Shame tends to be an embodied distress that any of the nine types may experience from a regrettable action. But much of what motivates the actions of Heart types in particular is the relentless pursuit of alleviating the sadness of not having been able to internalize unconditional affirmation of their inherent value as young people. Paradoxically, the generalized sadness only grows the more each Heart type tries to satiate it with their personality coping strategies since these schemes push them further from their truest selves—the very parts that were left invalidated in childhood and remain invalidated with every egoic attempt to fix them.”
― Scott Allender, The Enneagram of Emotional Intelligence: A Journey to Personal and Professional Success