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Alan Downs
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The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World
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2005
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30 editions
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The Half-Empty Heart: A Supportive Guide to Breaking Free from Chronic Discontent: Overcome Low-Grade Depression Once and for All
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2003
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13 editions
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Why Does This Keep Happening to Me?: The Seven Crises We All Experience and How to Overcome Them
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2002
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7 editions
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Secrets of an Executive Coach: Proven Methods for Helping Leaders Excel Under Pressure
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2002
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4 editions
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Corporate Executions
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1995
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4 editions
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The Fearless Executive
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2000
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4 editions
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Beyond the Looking Glass: Overcoming the Seductive Culture of Corporate Narcissism
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1997
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4 editions
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Seven Miracles of Management
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published
1998
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3 editions
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Jak przezwyciężyć życiowy kryzys
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ちょい不幸はクセになる
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“The damaging part of learning to live your life in two parts , whether in reality or fantasy, cannot be underestimated. It is an infectious skill that you learned, one that would eventually spread beyond the bedroom of your life. Life wasn't ever what it seemed on the surface. Nothing could be trusted for what it appeared to be. After all, you weren't what you appeared to be. In learning to hide part of yourself, you lost the ability to trust anything or anyone fully. Without knowing it, you traded humane innocence for dry cynicism.”
― The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World
― The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World
“Always seek to allow others the space to be imperfect.”
― The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World
― The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World
“Sadly, our culture raises man to be strong and silent. Straight or gay, the pressure is on from the time we're very young to become our culture's John Wayne-style of man.
* The more pain I can take, the more of a man I am.
* Showing feelings is for women.
* The more I can drink, the manlier I am.
* Intimacy is sex; sex is intimacy.
* Only women depend on others.
* A man takes care of himself without help from others.
* No one can hurt you if you're strong.
* I am what I earn.
* It is best to keep your problems to yourself.
* Winning is all that really matters.
Where did this stuff come from? It's everywhere in our society from the movies heroes we love to the politicians we vote for. Our culture demands that man fit in a tightly defined role.”
― The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World
* The more pain I can take, the more of a man I am.
* Showing feelings is for women.
* The more I can drink, the manlier I am.
* Intimacy is sex; sex is intimacy.
* Only women depend on others.
* A man takes care of himself without help from others.
* No one can hurt you if you're strong.
* I am what I earn.
* It is best to keep your problems to yourself.
* Winning is all that really matters.
Where did this stuff come from? It's everywhere in our society from the movies heroes we love to the politicians we vote for. Our culture demands that man fit in a tightly defined role.”
― The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World
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