Eleni Sagredos

“The metaphor of placing a frog in boiling water and turning up the heat slowly is often used to describe psychological and covert forms of abuse due to its gradual and insidious nature. Just as the frog may not notice the gradual increase in temperature until it's too late, victims of abuse often find themselves trapped in a toxic dynamic before fully realizing the extent of the damage. After the relationship they may also experience “delayed realization” a phenomena where the victim fails to recognize the severity of the abusive relationship until far after it’s ended.”
― Eleni Sagredos, But They're So Nice: Unmasking Covert Abuse & Narcissistic People

“Enablers are, in many ways, accomplices, though their complicity may not always be apparent. When someone outside a relationship becomes aware of one person abusing another and opts to do nothing but continue extending friendship to the abuser, they essentially endorse the abusive behavior. Enablers often rationalize their inaction by claiming it's not their business, but I want to stress that it is.”
― Eleni Sagredos, But They're So Nice: Unmasking Covert Abuse & Narcissistic People