Insta Love
Ok, I know. I’m a total loser and haven’t blogged in far too long. I absolutely blame my crazy life for it. You stink crazy life.
I wanted to write about a phrase that I’m just hearing about now, that has been used several times in reviews for my novel, Flight: “insta-love.” I thought I was a pretty cool, happening, hip chick who knew most of the modern day phrases, but I guess I was wrong because I had never heard of this before till it was used to describe the relationship between Xavier and Camille (and not in the nicest of ways – thank you very much.)
So I’ve been spending the last few days mulling this phrase over in my head. At first, my naïve self actually took the phrase as a compliment. I mean, if you’re going to find your soul mate, why not do it instantly, right? And then I read on after that phrase was used, and realized that it wasn’t used as a compliment, but as a slam. And then my lip started to quiver and the confusion left, and I got sad, and then I got depressed, and then I wanted to crawl under the covers with my dog and hide.
And then I really started to think about it, and then I got defensive.
What’s wrong with insta-love???
What’s wrong with seeing someone and immediately feeling that pull, that zing, that inexplicable burst that happens from a place in your soul you didn’t know existed until that person came into your life? That’s exactly how I felt when I met my husband. There was this instant chemistry/attraction/pull that I literally couldn’t turn away from, and neither could he. I’m so grateful I gave into that wonderful, crazy feeling because now I have a beautiful family to show for it.
Now, there’s lots of other stuff I don’t get, nor do I support. I don’t believe in compromising your belief system, just to please someone else. I don’t believe you should ever feel less than with the person you love. I don’t believe in giving up yourself and what makes you uniquely you, just to make the other person happy.
Nope, don’t buy any of the above.
But insta-love, I absolutely 100% believe in and wish for every man/woman in the universe to experience at least once in their life. And more importantly, if you are fortunate to have insta-love fall square in your lap, then by all means, embrace it, cherish is, believe in it.
I realize now that I am a shameless believer in the magic of insta-love, both in the stories I write and in the life I lead.
So there. Dammit.
I wanted to write about a phrase that I’m just hearing about now, that has been used several times in reviews for my novel, Flight: “insta-love.” I thought I was a pretty cool, happening, hip chick who knew most of the modern day phrases, but I guess I was wrong because I had never heard of this before till it was used to describe the relationship between Xavier and Camille (and not in the nicest of ways – thank you very much.)
So I’ve been spending the last few days mulling this phrase over in my head. At first, my naïve self actually took the phrase as a compliment. I mean, if you’re going to find your soul mate, why not do it instantly, right? And then I read on after that phrase was used, and realized that it wasn’t used as a compliment, but as a slam. And then my lip started to quiver and the confusion left, and I got sad, and then I got depressed, and then I wanted to crawl under the covers with my dog and hide.
And then I really started to think about it, and then I got defensive.
What’s wrong with insta-love???
What’s wrong with seeing someone and immediately feeling that pull, that zing, that inexplicable burst that happens from a place in your soul you didn’t know existed until that person came into your life? That’s exactly how I felt when I met my husband. There was this instant chemistry/attraction/pull that I literally couldn’t turn away from, and neither could he. I’m so grateful I gave into that wonderful, crazy feeling because now I have a beautiful family to show for it.
Now, there’s lots of other stuff I don’t get, nor do I support. I don’t believe in compromising your belief system, just to please someone else. I don’t believe you should ever feel less than with the person you love. I don’t believe in giving up yourself and what makes you uniquely you, just to make the other person happy.
Nope, don’t buy any of the above.
But insta-love, I absolutely 100% believe in and wish for every man/woman in the universe to experience at least once in their life. And more importantly, if you are fortunate to have insta-love fall square in your lap, then by all means, embrace it, cherish is, believe in it.
I realize now that I am a shameless believer in the magic of insta-love, both in the stories I write and in the life I lead.
So there. Dammit.
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Jun 19, 2015 06:15PM
I'm with you 100%. Insta-love is real because I've been married for 27 years to a man I met on a blind date and instantly fell in love with. By the end of the date we joked we'd get married some day. Kudos for writing what you believe and what you know. Not every book will appeal to every reader. Write what you know and love. That's what I do. I write insta-love because it's what I've known for 27 years.
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Cheers to you and all of the authors that believe in love at first sight or if not first sight then at least love that doesn't take to the very last chapter of the book. While some say they don't believe in insta-love, I say I don't believe in a love story where the two main characters can't figure out they are in love until one of them is ready to leave, or die or some other mumbo jumbo. There are plenty of plot devices that can be used to create tension in a story. SO why not bring on the love and enjoy a couple that fight together rather than fight each other.
Thank you to both the kick ass authors and amazing readers who aren't ashamed to believe and value insta love like I do! Think what a dark and dreary place the world would be if the magic of love at first sight didn't exist anymore. I whole heartedly agree that there are enough obstacles that can be thrown at a protagonist and her/his love to create tension. Avoiding and running away from insta love doesn't have to be one of them!Thank you for posting these wonderful responses - they've made this insta love fan's heart smile :)
