Emily May’s review of The Ten Year Affair > Likes and Comments
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Great review! I already knew I would give this one a pass when I read in the description: “…for fans of ‘Big Swiss’…” - I LOATHED “Big Swiss” and DNF’d it.
Tina wrote: "Great review! I already knew I would give this one a pass when I read in the description: “…for fans of ‘Big Swiss’…” - I LOATHED “Big Swiss” and DNF’d it."
Thanks, Tina! I haven't read Big Swiss so wasn't forewarned but yeah this is definitely not my thing.
As someone who handled dozens of divorces, I can honestly say all the problems of life and struggles and marriage find their way into the “new” relationship as well, once the thrill of secrecy and forbidden passion fades, and the reality of running two new households with the same old income sinks in. TBH 8 out of 10 husbands sought out their old life right after divorce. The affair always fizzled out. Most of the women seeking divorce left because of their own unhappiness (not due to either spouse’s affairs) and did not seek reconciliation. Men only left when they had a replacement lined up. Make of that what you will! 😬😬😬
Lisa wrote: "As someone who handled dozens of divorces, I can honestly say all the problems of life and struggles and marriage find their way into the “new” relationship as well, once the thrill of secrecy and ..."
Not surprised to hear this. I think a lot of people use affairs as a way of escaping reality, not exchanging their current reality for another. Once the fantasy becomes the daily reality, it's no longer appealing.
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"Once the fantasy becomes the daily reality, it's no longer appealing."
A very astute observation, Emily!
“Once a fantasy becomes part of everyday reality, it loses its charm.”
Such a perceptive observation, Emily.
This was definitely not my kind of book. I found it sad I would not recommend it to anyone I know.
Great review. The characters were flat and nothing happened in this book. It became ground hog day.
I know of this story line all too well. First marriage experienced this type of behavior from my 1st husband. Don't think I'll be picking this one up.
Love this review….i have 20 pages left…wish me luck
I couldn't even rate it. It fell so flat.
Agree I feel like I don’t know these characters at all and I’m already 50% through the book. Not into it
Thank you thank you! Your review is excellent and captures my thoughts exactly! Ugh I wish I had read your review first and saved myself the time and effort.
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Great review! I already knew I would give this one a pass when I read in the description: “…for fans of ‘Big Swiss’…” - I LOATHED “Big Swiss” and DNF’d it.
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Tina wrote: "Great review! I already knew I would give this one a pass when I read in the description: “…for fans of ‘Big Swiss’…” - I LOATHED “Big Swiss” and DNF’d it."Thanks, Tina! I haven't read Big Swiss so wasn't forewarned but yeah this is definitely not my thing.
As someone who handled dozens of divorces, I can honestly say all the problems of life and struggles and marriage find their way into the “new” relationship as well, once the thrill of secrecy and forbidden passion fades, and the reality of running two new households with the same old income sinks in. TBH 8 out of 10 husbands sought out their old life right after divorce. The affair always fizzled out. Most of the women seeking divorce left because of their own unhappiness (not due to either spouse’s affairs) and did not seek reconciliation. Men only left when they had a replacement lined up. Make of that what you will! 😬😬😬
Lisa wrote: "As someone who handled dozens of divorces, I can honestly say all the problems of life and struggles and marriage find their way into the “new” relationship as well, once the thrill of secrecy and ..."Not surprised to hear this. I think a lot of people use affairs as a way of escaping reality, not exchanging their current reality for another. Once the fantasy becomes the daily reality, it's no longer appealing.
"Once the fantasy becomes the daily reality, it's no longer appealing."A very astute observation, Emily!
“Once a fantasy becomes part of everyday reality, it loses its charm.”Such a perceptive observation, Emily.
This was definitely not my kind of book. I found it sad I would not recommend it to anyone I know.
Great review. The characters were flat and nothing happened in this book. It became ground hog day.
I know of this story line all too well. First marriage experienced this type of behavior from my 1st husband. Don't think I'll be picking this one up.
Love this review….i have 20 pages left…wish me luck
I couldn't even rate it. It fell so flat.
Agree I feel like I don’t know these characters at all and I’m already 50% through the book. Not into it
Thank you thank you! Your review is excellent and captures my thoughts exactly! Ugh I wish I had read your review first and saved myself the time and effort.
