Taylor’s Comments (group member since Dec 03, 2019)

Taylor’s comments from the diazkoolkidzz group.

1. "Its tempting to pretend that our fears and problems are not always with us. It is tempting to close our eyes to them, half hoping that they will, of their own accord, go away." Basically the more you ignore difficulties- the worse the issues get (still not solved). Not acknowledging the issue creates irritations in relationships, decline in confidence and loss of intrest in things that once brought you joy (sometimes depression and such)
2. Majority of the book is social awareness (recognizing others with the issues/ how relationships are inpacted, Self awareness (how to acknowledge your own issues and where theyre rooted from), Self management (steps to fix the problems) and self motivation (recognizing how deep/ un finished issues are what take away a lot of motivation.
3. anyone whose major defense mechanism (psychology- there are 9 specific defense mechanisms) is repression. If someone prefers information to be delivered bluntly/without much fluff it works really well too.
4.
-ignoring issues dont fix them
-not fixing issues takes joy out of the things you one loved
-you have to communicate to others/ admit flaws to fix anything
-I am apparently a sad old man named Donald that lives in a nursing home
- dont commit to something that would be to big for you to handle later

a. The book is good and hits the nail on the head with a lot of basic principles you need to "accomplish" before managing yourself (such as double standards, respect and inserting the veiw that you can change). it already is making me question how i do things- whichis good.
b) "valuing yourself is different from liking yourself. We may respect, and even admire, someone whom we do not like...underrating yourself just because you are you and not somebody else. If you were somebody else examining you as you are now, would you think differently?" a lot of the time I neglect basic "healthy" things because I dont deserve them. Although my thinking on that hasnt changed- i do aknowledge its a double standard (another thing addressed in the paragraph). Even a horrible person deserves basic things like food and sleep- there is no compromise. That is one of the major things that helps because it cant be argued or reasoned against.
c) Thinking about my self/ not just connecting to others i see with the issues.
d)

To improve my mental health, relationships and strategies towards problems. Because of the structure and straightforwardness of the book, I want to understand/incorporate the information.