Ian’s Comments (group member since Dec 03, 2019)

Ian’s comments from the diazkoolkidzz group.

This book relates to emotional intelligence with Social-Awareness and Relationship Management by explaining how to motivate people and how to center conversations on others rather than yourself, the other domains aren't as evident because it focuses on other people not you.
In my opinion people who want to learn how to talk to people successfully should read my book because it explains how you should focus on others interests to intrigue them and allow them to talk about themselves.
Three important lessons i have learned are to convince others to talk about themselves, make others feel important, and talk about other interests

Madisen Wrote
a. I think the more I read the book the more I will like it. Right now the book is off to a slow start with little interesting pieces.

That's essentially how my book is going right now, nothing really exciting or new, its a lot of facts about things some people said and now they made quotes out of them or something

a. So far, the book is interesting it doesn't really go into the winning friends portion but it does say some pretty deep quotes in which assist with the influencing portion.
b. A passage that was impacting was on page 6 there was a quote that said "By criticizing, we do not make lasting changes and often incur resentment." Its very impacting because its true for lots of people including me, it just makes us angry but then we just forget about it and disregard the idea eventually.
c. Something I find challenging in reading this book is some of the vocabulary i have spotted such as "Chivalrous" which i have no idea what it means except for some background knowledge of chivalry.
d. ("By criticizing, we do not make lasting changes and often incur resentment. Hans Selye, another great psychologist, said "As much as we thirst for approval, we dread condemnation. "The resentment that criticism engenders can demoralize employees, family members and friends, and still not correct the situation that has been condemned.") I feel like this shows evidence towards the self-awareness domain because its being aware about the fact that I, do and we do dread condemnation, we don't want this but it happens and we are aware of it, it could fall under self-motivation as well with condemnation being a fear that drives you.

I want to genuinely learn proper people skills and build up my leadership skills as those are fairly weak