Matthew’s Comments (group member since Dec 03, 2019)

Matthew’s comments from the fyevibesperiod6 group.

1) An impacting passage from my book is: "Picture this scene-you're playing chess and it's your turn to move. Yo move your hand over the chessboard and rest your finger on a chess piece, indicating you intend to move that piece. You then notice your opponent sit back and make the 'Steeple' gesture. Your opponent has just told you, nonverbally, that he feels confident about your next move so your best strategy is to not make it. You next touch another chess piece and see your opponent assume the 'Hands-Clenched' gesture or the 'Arms-Crossed' position, signaling that he doesn't like your potential move-so you should make it."
This passage is impactful because it shows how this book can be used in real life. Of course, there are other events in the book that prove how you can take what you learned and apply it to your life, but this example shows that these body language signs are not just used in meetings or introducing yourself. They are used in everyday life, even if you don't notice them at all. It is important to train yourself to spot these gestures, because they can give you clues as to how the other person is thinking. Almost every time, you don't even notice these gestures, but train yourself to notice them and they will help you a lot, even when you don't expect them too.
2) This book relates to the emotional intelligence domains in multiple examples. Self-Awareness: Be aware of your own body language so you can use it to influence others' thoughts or actions. Self-Management: Crossing your arms in front of your body to create a barrier is an example of self management because he is keeping his front protected. Self-Motivation: You can use body language on yourself to convince your brain that everything is OK. Social Awareness: If you are aware of the other person's culture/heritage, you can determine what type of body language you should be using. Relationship Management: Be aware of others' body language so you can adapt to how they are feeling.
3) I think that people who either struggle in reading body language or want to improve themselves should read this book. If you have a hard time reading others and what they might be thinking, this could be the book for you. If your body language skills are just fine but you still want to improve your ability to read others, that is just fine too! You will learn something either way.
4) Three important lessons I have learned from this book are: a. A person's cultural background should be recognized before initiating in conversation with them to avoid being embarrassed. b. Body language signs should not be taken out of context (for example, if a person is rubbing their hands together outside in the winter, they are not showing positive expectancy-they are just cold and warming up their hands). c. Body language signals can be difficult to learn, but if you take the time to do so, you will have better control of your own thoughts, be able to read others' emotions, and be able to win more chess games.
The Definitive Book of Body Language

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A) I enjoy the book well so far because it is teaching you how to introduce yourself to people. It is easy to read and fun.
B) The passage is, "In recent times, we humans have had an obsession with the spoken word and our ability to be conversationalists. Most people, however, are remarkably unaware of body language signals and their impact, despite the fact that we now know that most of the messages in any face-to-face conversation are revealed through body signals." This passage states that being able to understand others' body language is critical in being able to effectively communicate with others. Most people don't even know that being able to control your body language is a skill that can be learned and refined.
C) Something that is challenging about this book is being able to annotate what is important. The book mainly teaches you different types of body language and how to use them, but I am having trouble finding things to annotate.
D) Another passage is, "Considering that a handshake is a sign of trust and welcome, it is important to ask yourself several questions before you initiate the handshake: Am I welcome? Is this person happy to meet me or am I forcing them into it?" This passage represents social-awareness because you need to be aware if the person you are trying to initiate the handshake with wants to actually greet you.
The Definitive Book of Body Language

I want to be able to more effectively communicate with other people. I want to be able to use my body language to show my feelings to others, and to be able to better read others' body language. I want to be able to understand peoples' feelings, why they act a certain way, and adapt based on their emotions.
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