Norah’s Comments (group member since Dec 03, 2019)

Norah’s comments from the fyevibesperiod6 group.

Davani wrote: "1. One impacting passage that will allow others to to know the book better is when Erica says " when you know what you believe, what makes you special, and how you're called, something inside you c..."

I, too, am trying to find my place in the world. As I explore more about my inner self I am starting to realize what my purpose is and what I am trying to do for others and myself.

Missy wrote: "1. An impacting passage from "Rewire Your Mind" is "Failure, and the pain that follows, is a natural part of being human. Everyone you look up to has failed during their lifetime. Everyone makes mi..."

I fully agree with the quote that making mistakes is a part of life. In order to fully thrive, we need to learn off of those mistakes so that we can do better next time. If we dwindle on those mistakes, then we are living in the past and dismissing what is going on in the present.

Amani wrote: "1. "If there is any one secret of success," said Henry Ford, "it lies in the ability to get the other person's angle as well as from your own." In order to be good at making friends or doing anythi..."

I like the quote that we should get the other person's angle along with our own. I think that we should step into each others shoes and see how they view life in order to fully understand how they feel about the situation before we make any assumptions.

1. An impacting passage is, "The real you is still a little child who never grew up." To elaborate, deep down we are all still just children who have fun and try to enjoy our lives. However, we cover ourselves up in fear of rejection and cover up the little child inside of us callously.
2. My book, The Four Agreements, relates to self-awareness because we cover up our emotions. The passage, "When you don't do your best you are denying yourself the right to be you," is signifying how we loose our self awareness when we don't put enough effort in. The book relates to self-regulation with the passage, "Taking a shower is a ritual for me, and with that action I will tell my body how much I love it." By taking a shower, he let's himself know how much he appreciates himself. This book relates to self-motivation with the passage, "You know you're doing you best when you are enjoying the action..." Meaning, enjoying the activity is the self-motivation to get it done. The book relates to social-awareness with the passage, "We assume that others think the way we think, feel the way we feel, judge the way we judge, and abuse the way we abuse." Basically, the author says how we have a lack of social awareness with these assumptions. The book relates to relationship management with the passage, "For years we have received the gossip and spells from the words of others..." We manage others by spreading gossip about each other.
3. Someone who want's to change the way they live should read this book. This book discusses how being impeccable with your words, not taking anything personally, not making assumptions, and trying your best can change their life for the better. By following these agreements, they are letting go of their once controlled life.
4. One important lesson I learned from this book is how making assumptions can actually destroy relationships instead of trying to fix them. When we assume what's going on, we create more drama and cause a lot of disagreements among each other. Another lesson I learned was that, by not doing our best, we feel guilty and grow more self-hatred for ourselves. We know that we could have done better, and because of that we now hold a lot more regrets. The last lesson I learned was that if we break old agreements and consent to the new ones, we will actually live a healthier and happier life. We will, at last, be free and break past the chains that kept us grounded to the belief that we must follow the old agreements that caused so much guilt and sadness in our life.

Aj wrote: "b. "We put aside these controversies after a decent interval and moved onto different things.
I don't want to move onto different things".
I thought that this was impactful because it gave the impression that the author really did care about the topic at hand and really felt a passion for it."

Society can relate to that passage because we will discuss these controversies until we decide that we have talked for long enough or we get tired of it, and then we will just move right on without fully studying the problem at hand. The author of your book seems to truly care and, like you said, hold passion for these controversies to be resolved. Society as a whole needs to push for that motivation and use it so that we can reach more positive resolutions.

Amani wrote: "b. "Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain-and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving."A great man shows his greatness," said Carlyle, "by the way he treats little men."" It explains one of the key themes in the book that the way you treat people determines how people view you."

Others will most definitely identify you off of how you treated them. If you treated them in a negative way, they will most likely observe you as an enemy to them. However, if you treat them in a positive way, they will most likely observe you as a kind person. That passage was very impactful because we need to treat others with respect to truly show the world how wonderful we can be.

Milo wrote: "b. One passage that i liked in particular is the one defining shame. "Shame is an emotion that we have all felt, yet when we try to describe it, when we try to make it accessible for other people to understand, we struggle to find the words. Even when we find the words, it is rare that people will want to listen." It really hit me hard, because I feel as if it is something that myself, and others can definitely relate to."

I agree that everyone can relate to having trouble conveying our shame, and when we do convey it, people don't listen. Everyone is so caught up in their own shame, that when someone else comes along and expresses there's, we don't pay attention to it. I feel like this leads to us staying shameful for a lot longer because no one is there to provide empathy and assistance towards where our shame originated from.

Missy wrote: "c. Something I find challenging as I read this book is using deeper thinking to decode what the author means. I don't often think too deeply into what I read, but annotating encourages me to deepen my analysis on what I'm reading."

I agree that, by annotating the book, I am reading it while thinking deeper into the context. I would also like to add that annotating is helping me apply the authors words to my own personal life, and to society as a whole.

Cody wrote: "B)Brene Brown states"The dig-deep button is a secret level of pushing through when we're exhausted and overwhelmed, and when there's too much to do and little time for self-care." This is impacting because i always use this constantly, almost everyday i have to dig-deep to find my motivation."

I, too, have to dig deep to find my motivation. When I get very stressed out and I feel as though I can't manage all of the work, I have to really push forward to get to where I need to be. Even though pushing forward can mostly get the job done, I do feel as though it can also be very exhausting.

a. I enjoy the book so far because new doors are opening that I never noticed before, such as the fact that we are controlled by fear. Specifically speaking, I am starting to see that we aren't fully in control of how we live our life. No matter what, we make decisions based on what others will think of us, because we are scared of rejection.
b. An impacting passage was, "But nobody abuses us more than we abuse ourselves..." I, personally, will be hard on myself if I make a mistake or an error and let it effect me for future assignments. This passage truly represents how we all view ourselves, and the lack of respect and forgiveness we show ourselves.
c. Something challenging in this book was the concept that I as told how to live, and that my choices are influenced by others. I like to think that I make my own decisions, but this book states that we follow a belief system that we never choose to believe.
d. The passage, "We become a copy of Mamma's beliefs, Daddy's beliefs, society's beliefs, and religion's beliefs," is the relationship management domain. People have managed each other so much that they became copies of each other, and no one ever has original beliefs.

I want to achieve the ability to not make assumptions. Specifically speaking, there tends to be a lot of misunderstandings among my friends. Due to these misunderstandings, I tend to assume the worst of what is being said. If I can learn to not make assumptions about what others say and maintain a clear conversation, I will be able to reduce the drama. I would also like to reach the goal of always trying my best. Sometimes, I will loose ambition and have a lack of grit when I am completing academic assignments. I would like to be able to avoid being hard on myself and just keep trying to the best of my ability.