Amani’s Comments (group member since Dec 03, 2019)

Amani’s comments from the fyevibesperiod6 group.

1. "If there is any one secret of success," said Henry Ford, "it lies in the ability to get the other person's angle as well as from your own." In order to be good at making friends or doing anything you have to be able to put yourself in another person's shoes and also consider your own point of view. That's the easiest way to influence a person.
2. It mainly talks about being nice to people when you know you need something from them. It also talks about speaking to people about their needs and wants because they don't want to hear about anyone else- social awareness. It also talks about how you should try not to criticize people and try to show sincere appreciation to other people- self management.
3. People who are looking to have a better understanding of how to handle other people or people who just want to learn how to make friends.
4. When you talking to someone talk about them and what they want in order to get what you want out of the situation. Instead of criticizing a person point out things they did well so they don't feel the need to justify their wrong doings. Last, is to give honest appreciation to people and not to butter them up with lies.

Matthew wrote: "... Most people, however, are remarkably unaware of body language signals and their impact, despite the fact that we now know that most of the messages in any face-to-face conversation are revealed through body signals."

I can relate because most times I don't pay attention to my body language until someone points it out or says that I look a certain way, I may not feel that way, but because I look like it they assume that's how I'm feeling.

Sophia wrote: "Amani wrote: "a. I like this book because it is very informative and has a lot of good themes and quotes to break down.
b. "Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain-and most fools do. But it t..."

It is important to me because it makes me realize that people judge me and determine my character based on how treat them and others. It makes me want to pay more attention to how I react to certain situations and people.

Norah wrote: "We become a copy of Mamma's beliefs, Daddy's beliefs, society's beliefs, and religion's beliefs,"

I feel this is important because it relates to the domain relationship management and learning that your relationships with people shouldn't mean you should take up all their hobbies or believe everything they do. You are your own person and you should have your own values and beliefs.

Mia wrote: "We must go further beneath so we not only see what's under there but also figure out why we feel the need for a mask in the first place."

I feel this is an important step to becoming self aware and understanding your self in a deeper level than you tend to reveal to other people.

Missy wrote: "The higher the stakes you set for yourself, the greater pressure you'll feel to live up to them."

I agree with this but at the same time it is good to set high goals for yourself so that you have something to work towards.

a. I like this book because it is very informative and has a lot of good themes and quotes to break down.
b. "Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain-and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving."A great man shows his greatness," said Carlyle, "by the way he treats little men."" It explains one of the key themes in the book that the way you treat people determines how people view you.
c. The old use of language and quotes are sometimes weird or hard to understand so I have to work hard to understand what it's saying.
d. "Criticism is futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself. Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person's precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, ans arouses resentment." This is an example of social and self awareness because you can learn to understand how criticism change me and others.

I want to learn how to understand people. I want to know how to be more helpful to people. I want to do these things so that I can be more of a people person.