Davani’s Comments (group member since Dec 03, 2019)

Davani’s comments from the fyevibesperiod6 group.

1. One impacting passage that will allow others to to know the book better is when Erica says " when you know what you believe, what makes you special, and how you're called, something inside you comes alive. This is impacting because at this point in my life, i am trying to find myself. As i'm doing that i'm also introduced to other things that can alter or impact my opinion of myself. I felt like when she put these words in the book, she was speaking directly to me because shes saying that once i find myself something in me will spark and i can finally allow my light to properly shine.
2. as far as Self-Awareness, she talks about how when shes feels a certain way, she is able to detect it and she walks away before something bad can happen. As i look for Self-Management, I realize Erica talks about how to manage her feelings, and how to be able to ignore the negativity. For self-Motivation, Erica talks about how the positive feedback and kind words from others help her to tell herself 'you have to keep going. you bless people through your craft.' For social-awareness, Erica talks about how she is able to detect when something is wrong not only in her household, but she can tell when someone is putting on a happy face, because shes been there before. Last but not least, Erica uses the fact that when her and her husband go through it, or even her and her kids, they are able to express their feelings and go back to how they were.
3. Someone i think should read this book is someone who one, lacks self confidence and is focused on trying to fit in, and two, someone who wants to get closer to god. I say this because throughout the book, Erica makes points on the concept of 'pretty', she touches on times in her life where she felt the need to fit in, and she includes many bible scriptures that relate to her topic and relates to how god must feel about us judging something he created and thought was perfect.
4. One lesson i've learned is that the way you look is the way god created you to look, he made you and you are perfect in his eyes. another lesson ive learned is to get to know myself before trying to be so hard and judging, because once i get to know myself, ill look at myself with a better perspective. Lastly, ive learned to surround myself around people that will not only uplift me, but will keep me on the right track.

Amani wrote: " the way you treat people determines how people view you."


I agree with this because the way you treat others can impact the way they feel about you, whether your a good person, or a person they feel that they cant talk to.

Matthew wrote "This passage states that being able to understand others' body language is critical in being able to effectively communicate with others. Most people don't even know that being able to control your body language is a skill that can be learned and refined."

I myself didn't know that. What do you do or what steps do you take in order to be able to control your body language?

Norah wrote: " I, personally, will be hard on myself if I make a mistake or an error and let it effect me for future assignments."

I agree with you, because when i see that i made a mistake or i got a low grade, i tend to put myself down.

Missy wrote: "Something I find challenging as I read this book is using deeper thinking to decode what the author means."
do you have a hard time figuring out what falls under what category and if so how do you make that final decision.

Aj wrote: "I like the book a lot so far especially for a nonfiction book and it is easy to stay interested in the book because it talks about interesting topics."
what are the topics being talked about and how are they interesting? is there anything that relates to our growth?

A. I like my book so far, she speaks a lot of encouraging words. She talks about personal experiences with her self esteem and how people use the word "pretty" to categorize others. She also talks about the expectations people have for women to live with 'good girl syndrome'.

B. A impactful passage so far was when it said " But girl, you are so much more than your best filtered photo. Those images on a screen aren't the real you, and those little hearts and thumbs-up aren't a validation of who you are." this is impactful because I tend to look at the likes and comments I get and use them to validate my looks. if i have a low like count i pick out the flaws in the picture and delete the whole picture altogether.

C. While reading this, The most challenging thing i have to endure is elaborating on the things i underline. This is challenging because it requires to to deepen my analysis on what i underline. It also encourages me to open up my mind and actually think about what i'm reading.

D. " ... I saw a friend of mine smiling over brunch with a bunch of her girlfriends. Just a couple minutes later, she texted me and told me how depressed she was feeling." this goes with social awareness because what we see isn't always whats going on.

One specific goal i would like to achieve after this book is i want to be able to let go because i tend to hold on to things, even if it adds unnecessary stress on me or drag me down. I also wanna be able to know how to surround myself around the right people, and know who the right people are.last but not least, I want to be open to change, and be able to accept it.