Carl’s Comments (group member since Oct 07, 2025)

Carl’s comments from the Introverted But Willing To Discuss Books group.

@Jeni - well maybe not in their genes but they shouldnt critize, looking forward to discussing more when youve read more, same for you Drew I am going to bed now trying to pretend that the weekend wont be over when I wake up, goodnight!

@Drew - can you relate to that?

@Drew - I have had friends with disabilities and I also felt the need to be protective, something that I also felt though is that often the relationship is deeper than it would have been otherwise because you stand up for each other, where as an ordinary person may be less dependent but also connected to the people around them because ultimately they dont feel as strongly that they need really good friends who they can rely on

@Jeni - What are the the biggest challenges with having a deaf daughter? Can you relate a lot to the mother in the book? (I am not good at knowing when I am overstepping whats personal territory so please be understanding if I do)

@Jeni - my feed doesnt update live so sorry if it seems like I just ignored something written I just didnt see it, yeah I think its super important that they have a place to go, not just for socialising and having a safe space where its okay to be different but also to feel like they contribute and have worth

Can either of you relate to thinking about how protective you should be about your children (if either of you have any)?

@Drew - Yes I really liked that they showed that both parents want him to be happy but disagree on how much protection he should have

to some extent, when I worked at Erikshjälpen which is a second hand store in sweden I had a lot of collegues with disabilities, they are given salary by the state and work there because they cant work anywhere else, then it was very important to be understanding and not judge them for things they cant control

Something that I feel the author does very well is how theyve written the relationships and the characters, how the parents try to help, was there anything you guys (including jeni) thought about the characters or relationships?

Okay ive read some backstory on why it was written, and the thing that inspired the author was when their son saw a girl with facial deformities and reacted with stress

Yeah it feels like a way to communicate that he is actually just like everybody else and shouldnt be seen as fundamentally different, from what Ive read thats a message that seems like it keeps popping up, it feels like something the books tries to do is make you look past the superficial and see the person

Ive read a bit further and I like how honest it feels, and how clearly the feelings of the main character is potrayed, it feels like a book that really gives you some insight into the daily life of being viewed as very different

Okay Ive read ordinary and a bit further because I wasnt sure if that was a whole chapter, how far have you read

If you want to we can discuss each chapter! I have had to study a lot so I am starting the book later today and then we can discuss the first chapter!

Yes! I can get the book today since I read digitally on my kindle, if you dont then I dont mind waiting until you get the book, just tell me when you have it so we can start at the same time

I like fantasy but am open to any books, some books I am looking forward to is:
Warbreaker by Brandon Sanderson
Wonder by R.J. Palacio
The book thief by Markus Zusak
The thursday murder club by Richard Osman
Sabriel by Garth Nix
but I am open to any sort of books so please write more suggestions!

Haha I know the perfect book for you since you like dragons although you may read it already, Fourth Wing! its nice when you read a book and its good but it also shows how smart you are I have been trying to read war and peace so I can "accidentally" leave at my desk so everyone can see how cool I am😎 ok I have to sleep but it would be fun if this group had a book club section where we choose a book to read and then discussed it, if you or anyone else wants to read a fantasy book and then discuss it then that would be great!

Final empire
The way of kings
The eyes of the dragon
The princess bride
The name of the wind

i didnt want to add too many but basically all of robin hobb and sanderson is worth reading, I have also read the priory of the orange tree, it was cool but I like more the adventure vibe like the hobbit and the book I am reading now which is wizards first rule, what did you like about the priory of the orange tree?

😵 never heard of him i envy you, he write like 4 books a year so you have many great books ahead of you. I honestly dont know if his books would be considered hard to follow, i dont think so, but you should read them either way, he is great at suspense and there is quite a lot of worldbuilding but it doesnt become too much, if you want more fantasy recomandations I am an expert

it feels like more modern fantasy books explain more and its not as mystical, I read a lot of brandon sanderson anyway and then it feel more like some system then magic