Janet’s Comments (group member since Jan 03, 2016)

Janet’s comments from the DSPC Book Group group.

Lisa,
Misplaced my list and want to Kindle this month's book. Been through a couple surgeries and lost track. Please give me the title to this month's selection. j

The dissatisfied spouse is an easy one - her undisclosed feelings are not lies. The latter one is easier for me-she should expose him to the world in court to protect child. Keeping back can be a form of lying when she has a duty to come forward. The alcoholic may or may not be lying to himself but, if a closet drinker, has no reason to confess his addiction to others unless it could impact them in some way. The sexually abused child, by keeping quiet, - tough one since it could potentially impact others as she may not be alone. Hard to call it a lie, though.

Sure. If it is personal and private, you have a choice of sharing with someone or continuing to keep it private. That is what a secret is. Cannot equate that with lying. It simply is nobody's business but your own. Perhaps we are talking about different types of secrets here.

Had a super secret when I was 11 years old that I could not share with friends who would not have understood. But I needed to share with someone and so selected my 7th grade English teacher who gave me some sage advice.

As an adult I have spoken to many people about this "secret" but it is of little import these days.

Good questions for discussions.

Aside from Frank, with whom I most identify, my favorite character is Gus. He is a central connecting figure between Nathan and Frank. A person who, despite his obvious faults, both could depend upon.

Regarding the parents, it appears that Nathan is most satisfied with the marriage. She did not get what she bargained for but tried to make the most of her status in his churches with her musical talent. However, she still longed for the life that escaped her. I don't think either of them were particularly happy but created a good home life for their children.

Dee, Have you looked at LitLovers wbsite? Lots of suggestions for book club discussions of this book.

Typically, I was wrong. Completely missed the foreshadowing. Finished and will return to library tomorrow if someone else wants to take it out. Good book. Nathan Drumm reminded me a little of Atticus in "To Kill a Mockingbird."

Makes sense. On last 50 pages and think I have it figured out. But I am generally wrong.

I am 1/2 way through the book and enjoying it. In 1961, I was the same age as the protagonist and much of the story brings back fond memories. I picked up the book from the library a couple of days ago and will return in a few days so someone else has a chance. I did see a good online discussion of the book. Looking forward to our discussion but sorry it conflicts with Soul Sippers. Any chance of doing it on a different Thursday?