Doree’s Comments (group member since Mar 12, 2008)

Doree’s comments from the NO ONE CAN GET A GUY group.

Your best friend just picked out a $450 rhinestone-encrusted sleeping bag for you that she calls a bridesmaid dress (after she insists you lose those last pesky 10 pounds) for her wedding that you can’t afford in the first place.

Your loser college boyfriend who wasted five years of your life – your best years in your dating prime! – just announced his engagement... to the girl he’s known for three months.

Your loving albeit overbearing and overly-concerned parents have opened up the dialogue about "freezing those eggs" – and you’re only 27!

Welcome to the Panic Years!

It’s a rough ride, but I’m Doree Lewak and as a reformed panicker who has been there, I’m going to help you get through them, with pride mostly intact.

The Panic Years are a mighty force. When the Panic grips you, it’s hard to disengage yourself from its hold – and even harder to get a grip on reality. With successful coping tools and strategies, I want to help every SPS (self-pitying spinster) out there to overcome the Panic before it overruns your life!

I think it’s OK if you’re single and you want to get married; it’s not OK when you let the Panic Years conquer your life and become self-defeating. My mantra: "Don’t get panicked, get proactive!"

So what if it has whittled down to just you and the five-year old flower girl for the bouquet toss at weddings? Who cares if you were just set up on the most miserable blind date experience of your life with "eccentric eye patch guy"? This is no reason to Panic – and let the fear that "it will never happen for you" start to warp your way of thinking and undermine your sense of self.

I inject myself and my personal experiences only as a springboard; I know that my “panicked past” can serve as an example to the millions of women who are victims of The Panic Years phenomenon. The dozens of stories and anecdotes in the book are representative of the larger phenomenon that is so widespread today.

This is an earnest and serious subject – but I try to address it with humor and levity because I think it’s that absence of genuine lightheartedness that’s killing any chance of us forming – and maintaining – healthy relationships that can lead to marriage.
To learn more or order the book, please check out www.thepanicyears.com and be sure to weigh in here – I’d love to read your Panic posts!

Remember: Never let ’em see you Panic!