“Surrendering yourself, or the idea of it can be daunting to codependents because they come from a place of neglect and abuse. But, on the other hand, trust is not built in a day. It is a process, and in order to move towards it, you have to learn to let go. Reality is more often than not painful. Even if everything is going well, there will be moments when you will think that something is missing, but that is okay. Your life is not meant to be perfect. You need to accept everything realistically because only then can you live effectively. But letting go doesn’t mean you should not make goals. It simply means that you should not try to control the outcomes.”