“Straight men don’t face the struggle I face, and I envy them for that. But they too often miss out on the chance to know other men deeply. The “masculinity” they’ve learned from society teaches them to hold one another at a distance, to befriend with bravado instead of with sincerity. My gay heart knows by instinct what so many straight men must fight to learn: that men were designed to know one another deeply, to be intimate, to love with a love that isn’t afraid of looking unmasculine.”