“You can see that one has a predetermined answer while the other is neutral. With anxious kids, we need to avoid - "Do you feel nervous?" or "Are you scared?" Instead, try, "How are you feeling right now?" or "Are you feeling anxious or are you feeling excited?" The A/B question is an excellent way to get an honest answer out of kids. A simple "How do you feel?" is good to ask now and then, but not too often. Also, remember to listen with empathy whenever your child wants to share with you.”