“I cannot think of a single time in my life when I have stood up to abuse and not been vilified, questioned, or critiqued for doing it. Women have a hard time setting boundaries not just because we were taught not to but also because we are punished, stalked, or maligned when we do. How a woman responds to abuse is often more harshly criticized than the abuse itself. I think this is because women are expected to bear crosses and bear them silently. It is a shock to the system when we set them down, name them as unjust, and refuse to carry them.”