“The notion that I might be asexual seemed laughable.
[...]
Never did it occur to me that my friends and I might be using the language of desire differently. For them, a word like "hot" could indicate a physical pull of the type Jane had described.
For me, "hot" conveyed an admiration of excellent bone structure.
Their sexual encounters were often motivated by libido; I didn't even know that I lacked a libido.”