“She was only always obsessed with whether or not I really loved her. The basic pattern of our downward doom spiral was this: Uncertainty caused her to demand evidence of my love that made sense to her. I resented her attempts to constrain my behavior (i.e. change me in ways that she felt would prove I loved her). This made her feel more uncertain and make even more desperate demands. Which I further resisted and resented. Wash, rinse and repeat for 5 years, until there’s no joy left, and whatever love you once had is now buried under a putrid mountain of resentment, anger and pain.”