“I've learned not to share these experiences, especially with able bodies people who can be quick to tell me how I should feel, that I should just ignore it or learn to laugh it off or that I'm being too sensitive and it's not a big deal . . . Often these statements are made with good intentions . . .but they always have the opposite effect, leaving me feeling chastened and misunderstood. It is a deft act of erasure to be told how to process a situation by a person who would never experience it.”