“Well, raising a child is one new experience after another, isn’t it. You can never really know what it’s like until you’ve been through it. So much turns out to be different than how you imagined.” “Yes, yes, that’s right.” I nodded emphatically several times. Here was somebody who seemed to understand. I felt a trust that made me want to reveal my innermost thoughts to her. “It’s the difference between thinking that Winnie-the-Pooh is cute, and actually living with a bear.”