“From what I could see, they had decided to be miserable or depressed or a failure or whatever. And I would think, You know, if they just made better choices, if they were just discipline and stopped making excuses, they wouldn't have to suffer this way.

You can walk around for a long time thinking nonsense like this--that most adults have it together and live safe, pleasant lives, and that the ones who don't only have themselves to blame. It's easy to think like Job's friends.”