“In my book Total Forgiveness I elaborate on how you know you have forgiven others totally: you don’t tell what they did, you won’t allow them to be afraid of you, you won’t let them feel guilty, you let them save face, you protect them from their darkest secret, and you keep on doing it—as long as you live.2 Doing this is to enjoy the rule and reign of the Holy Spirit—which is inheriting the kingdom of heaven. By the way, the greater the suffering (or hurt you feel), the greater the comfort, blessing, or, in some cases, anointing that is promised to you (if you dignify the trial and totally forgive them).”