“[I]t is not necessary to find a husband before you are eighteen, or even twenty...You have everything a woman needs to attract a husband but a husband is not necessary to ensure your comfort in life. You are not a woman who will have a good few years and then fade away into insignificance. More likely, you will find that maturity will allow you to recognise what you want and who you want to spend your life with. Do not be in a hurry, my dear, and do not let anyone pressure you into making a decision you are not ready for.”