“Most of us know what it takes for us to feel loved. What we have to learn is how to ask for it. A partner is not a mind reader, so it is up to each of us to tell our partner what our brand of love is. And if we have to teach our partner how to love us, we also have to learn how to love him or her. Knowing this makes it clear that love is not a sentimental feeling but a conscious choice to give and receive in unique and often challenging ways. Love is the easiest and hardest thing that we will ever do.”