“The child then is likely to take on beliefs—a self-definition—of badness or shame. And shame, in these unfortunate instances, is not just cognitive—it involves visceral responses—a feeling of giving up, or loss of energy in the body. This is the response of dorsal vagal parasympathetic activation (Porges, 2007), which is an unconditioned response to situations of impossible helplessness, or anticipation of impending death.”