“I ask you to keep in mind that you will be disappointed only to the extent that your desires or expectations fall out of harmony with reality.” “But, Grandpa, I don’t know much about this aspect of reality. You do.” He chuckled. “One of the problems with knowing, or thinking you know, is that it often makes keeping your hands off what is not yours quite difficult. If we aren’t careful, we’re tempted to transform our knowledge into a license to change and control. But there are some things—actually, I believe there are many things—that we should not get involved in changing or controlling. Your sexuality, how you express your love, how you express your wonder and awe at the world—such things are yours, not mine. I love you, and in loving you, I humbly defer in such matters to you.”