“The Pendulum" 1. Trying to regain your authority with your kids by being more authoritative and demanding parental respect. Or 2. Begging your kids for their love and affection. Giving up completely and collapsing into loss of control with everything in your life. The first thing to understand is that authority is not about being authoritative at all. It’s about being calm, composed and in control. While understandable, I’m sure your kids have seen you on both ends of the pendulum. Either demanding respect, or completely chasing and begging for their affection. It’s a”