“Without love, how can there be hatred? Hate is actually a very burdensome emotion. For those people, I simply despise them and don't forgive them, but I don't hate them. Hating them would be too much of a concession to them. And can hatred solve any problem? Since ancient times, family matters have been the most complicated. It's not like dealing with an enemy, where you can act with impunity like an autumn wind sweeping away fallen leaves. Without a proper reason or excuse, dealing with one's own family would inevitably constrain oneself to the shackles of morality. Even if we don't care, it's impossible to live in this world without caring about the opinions of others and the scrutiny of the world." Since it's so difficult to resolve, why burden yourself with hatred and exhaust yourself with it?

- Lin Qingwan”